(Closed) Singing at my own wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
23592 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@diamonddiva: I think it’s sweet! My first instinct (as a pianist myself) is that I myself would never want to do it – on my wedding day, I was just so full of nerves that there’s no way I could have performed.  BUT that being said, I think it’s a great idea and as long as you have the time to rehearse it, then you should do it!

Post # 4
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

To be honest? I kind of laugh when brides do this, like it’s just a chance to showcase their singing, or put on a “performance” at their wedding. To me it seems a little self indulgent and over the top, but that could just be because it’s something I’d never do despite having done theater for many years. If it’s something that is super special to you as a couple and your guests will get it, go for it! Weddings don’t have rules!

Post # 5
10285 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@KatyElle: Completely agree.

After a few family members asked me if I’d be singing at our wedding, I started to consider it. I’ve been singing since I could talk and I have a lot of performance experience but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. The day was already all about me so I didn’t need to to be the center of attention in such an in-your-face capacity. I did sing a little bit of our first dance song to Darling Husband while we were dancing but it was something just between him and I and I highly doubt anyone else could hear it.

You never know what your nerves will be like on your wedding day. You could rehearse a song a million times and have it down but then end up totally chocking. I imagine that could be really awkward infront of all of your friends and family. In the end it’s your decision but as a fellow performer, I couldnt do it.

Post # 6
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think that would be weird if I was at a wedding. Maybe at your reception? I think during the ceremony it would be a bit odd though, especially if it’s right after you get to the alter.

Post # 7
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, it’s something I would never do. However if you want to do it; I think it’s best at the reception and not as soon as you walk down the aisle.

Post # 8
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The only musical tribute done at a wedding that I’ve ever seen happened during the reception (the bride sang Adam Sandler’s “I wanna grow old with you” to the groom with the groom’s brother playing it on guitar, EVERYONE cried).  I’m sure that as a guest, I’d enjoy hearing a performance, but I guess I just might not be expecting it as soon as you got to the end of the aisle.

Post # 9
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Its your day so if you want to do it then go for it! But I have to agree with pp that it would be alittle odd but wouldnt be as odd to do during the reception.

Post # 10
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would probably find it a little strange and get the church giggles.  I think it would be cute at the reception though.  But like someone else said, no rules, so if you think it would work with your guests, go for it. 

Post # 11
244 posts
Helper bee

i was gonna say do it at the reception instead.. but lea salonga sang her vows to her husband and it was so good, but she is a famous broadway singer so i don’t think anyone minded her singing.  

Post # 12
5 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would definitely say that if you were going to do it, it should be at the reception and not during the ceremony.  I’m not sure that would be well-received by the guests.  Not saying they wouldnt enjoy it, just saying it may be a bit confusing to them.

Post # 14
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I say go for it. My mom got remarried in 2009 and she sang a song to her husband during the ceremony. It was really sweet. It was something that meant a lot to her and I know he loved it. (He cried). You said you’ve been singing for a while and if that’s something you want to do to express your love for your fiance during the ceremony I think it’s a lovely idea. 🙂

Post # 15
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@diamonddiva: I had people ask if I was singing at my wedding too. I told them that although singing is a big part of my life, it doesn’t have anything to do with my relationship to DH; the day was about Darling Husband and I being joined in marriage, not about me showing off my voice.

I think it’s really sweet when people write songs for their SO and sing them during the reception, but I don’t feel it’s appropriate for the ceremony.

Post # 16
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think whether people will find it appropriate depends on where you live and what’s culturally accepted there.  I’ve seen singing by the bride and groom in Southern U.S. weddings.  When people are very musical . . . an event sometimes doesn’t seem complete without music!! I can understand this, and if it’s what you want, then go for it.  Sure, there will always be complainers or those who don’t agree with everything you do, in the same way that they will think you should have chosen different wedding colors or different horderves, perhpas they’ll say you shouldn’t have sung.  At the end of the day, it’s your wedding.  If you will regret looking back on your wedding and not singing, then by all means, do it.  And do it again in the reception if you want to.  Everyone knows your musical, so they’ll just accept that’s part of how you express yourself.  

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