- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 1997
Keep it private. It will make guests uncomfortable.
Keep it private. It will make guests uncomfortable.
I am so surprised by all the people saying they would feel awkward. For a minute and a half song? What of the vows, first dance, all the other dances some countries seem to have, speeches? If you’re musical then it will be entertaining and a touching, personal addition in my opinion. A lot of my friends and family are musical. I liken this to going to see their performances, which I love! I love personal touches in weddings rather than the stock standard run sheet. I am definitely voting yes!
Whaaat, why would so many say that it would be awkward or bad in any way? I would never think that, it sounds really sweet! You don’t have to be a professional, it’s a lovely “gift” to give to your husband!
Why do everyone that is more suiting for a “private moment”, isn’t the whole wedding like a big, private moment that you want to share with your loved ones? Making out or talking about sex infront of everyone would be too intimate, but singing a love song, no! It’s a wedding! The whole day is all about you to loving each other! It would be really sweet and romantic!
I would be really touched if I was there to witness something so beautiful and meaningful between the newly married couple! It would add a whole new dimention to the wedding! Doesn’t everyone love when the couple themselves are somehow involved in the “show”? It would for sure be memorable for all the guests and especially for your new husband!
I say goo gogogogogogoogo for it! I love the idea! So personal yet not TOO personal. It’s your friends and family who will be there to witness, how could a song be too intimate to perform infront of them, they are all there to celebrate your love for each other! 🙂 Sounds just like the right amount of magic to make the wedding a non forgettable evening!
ooohh AWKWARD. In all probability, someone might start giggling.
I think it’s super awkward.
If you do it, I think it needs to be very understated – acoustic and no belting out loud in a crazy way. It might be sweet to do it as part of the first look, I bet the pictures would be beautiful; just the two of you.
Oh also, do it later? At the hotel? At your wedding night? What? They will either fall asleep right away or have other things that they will be doing…. Either way they wont have time to sing songs! 😀
The reception is a perfect place to sing a song for your loved one! Accutually, one of my friends got married in the fall 2012, and she sang for her hubby, it was gorgeous! Not one eye remained dry in that room, and everyone was “awww”-ing afterwards. I talked to some of the guests later that evening, and no one mentioned it being awkward in any way, everybody was just talking about how fantastic it was! Ans she is not a professional at all, she just has this lovely singing voice, it was a very beautiful moment!
I’m torn because the positive responses are really encouraging!
pess: your reasons for voting yes are EXACTLY the reasons why I thought about doing it at the reception.
but i can’t help but think since there are so many responses that are SO negative (some even kind of rude?) that I will have guests feeling uncomfortable.. I mean I came here for honesty which is why I didn’t just ask my friends who actually know what my voice sounds like but for people to say they’d gag and squirm about someone singing a love song at a wedding is really rude.
weatherbug: Lol I think it’s impossible to belt I Can’t Help Falling In Love. Like I can’t even imagine?
we had a friend sing at her wedding and it was fine… I mean it wasn’t the most spectacular thing that I have ever heard in my life and American idol wasn’t banging down the door to sign her that minute but it was sweet and cute and definitely good enough to not be embarrassing (and she sang Etta James’ At Last which is a pretty tough song from what I understand)
If you feel good and comfortable and want to do it then I am all for it… I think that its no more or less cringeworthy than dozens of other things that happen at weddings (special dances, long speeches, garter toss etc)
my only suggestion is only do it if you really are ok and 100% confident and comfortable because I wouldn’t want to add something stressful on to my wedding day/ have anything distracting me from the real events of the day
themoonofhislife: I think doing it during wedding would be romantic and touching. Why do a cookie cutter wedding? Go with your gut. If it sounded good to you before, then do it. Most people project their own feelings into a situation. I’m guessing that’s why so many are negative? I wouldn’t be embarrassed to do it or witness it. I find it terribly romantic. What a wonderful surprise! Those that know you will love it too, I’m sure.
One of my coworkers sang for her husband as a surprise, but she did it right before the ceremony. They had already had their first look and it was before the guests started arriving at the church. His best man convinced him to “check something” in the church and she was by the piano and started singing. I wasn’t at the wedding because I didn’t know her then, but it apparently was a very special, intimate moment. I vote do something along those lines.
I recently went to a friend’s wedding where she sang to her husband. She’s a great singer, so it wasn’t awkward in that respect, but nobody really knew what to do with their hands and it just seemed very rehearsed and not at all romantic.
Please don’t show off at your wedding. I was at one where the bride sang and it was weird. (I’m also a trained singer but don’t want to worry about being “on stage” at my wedding.)
I think what makes it awkward is that you are singing to one person in front of an audience. It almost feels like your guests are interloping on a private moment because the performance is meant only for your husband. However, it is your ceremony and if you want a singing video to look back upon, go for it. A song isn’t any more cringe-worthy to me than some of the personalized vows I’ve heard throughout the years.
themoonofhislife: My daughter sang “Ave Maria,” during the procession of the grandmothers, and the groom’s parents, during her own wedding prelude. She sang at her first wedding at age 15. She stood in the back, with the pianist, trumpets, and soloist, and I don’t think anyone could tell it was her singing. When they were about to start the recesisonal, her fellow church choir members surprised everyone with a mini flash mob song, from one of her favorite musicals (she had been in the cast), and she joined in at the end. Most guests said it was the highlight of the evening, in fact, they said it was the most memorable thing done at any wedding they’ve attended. (In a good way, of course).
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