(Closed) Singing at your own wedding

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 46
9042 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Getting up with the band during the reception and singing an upbeat song dedicated to your partner whilst guests go on enjoying the evening eating and dancing = not awkward

Stopping the reception so all eyes are on you and your partner while you serenade them with a love song = awkward. 

Post # 47
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Honesty? Super awkward…like, where’s the bathroom so I can hide kind of awkward, BUT it’s your wedding so if you really want to do it go for it!

Post # 48
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Miami

themoonofhislife:  I do think it’s sweet, and how can it be attention–whoreish, it’s your wedding and your the bride! 🙂

But just think about whether or not you feel comfortable with the added pressure that day. I had a similar idea to sing and play guitar to Adam Sandler’s Grow Old With You at the reception but I decided against it. As my wedding has gotten closer and since we’re doing all the planning ourselves, not to mention the emotions, I feel like there’s SO much else on my mind that the nerves of singing and playing in front of people would stress me out more than anything. Also did I mention I’m not a great singer and was going to take vocal lessons prior? lol

In your case it may not be as stressful since you’re an experienced singer. But if you’re just learning guitar, maybe try just singing it and skip the guitar? Maybe your DJ can find a track without the vocals? Or if you have a band, they can play along. 

Also, you could always tentatively plan to do it, but if you feel too nervous leading up, you could always change plans and do it the night before or morning of instead.

Post # 49
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Definitely awkward but if you really want to do it, just do it. Its your wedding and you (presumably) will only get this one chance.

Post # 50
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Very awkward.  

Post # 51
6886 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Please don’t save it for when you are alone

Post # 52
3223 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

That bride singing “Look at me”? UGH. So cringey! everyone aready knows to look at th bride…

if I were singing Elvis, I would either do it right before the first look (like, he gets out into position, photographer leads you out to where his back is turned except instead of tapping his shoulder or whatever you start singing and playing) or well into the reception I would do a bit more upbeat Elvis song, like “burning love.” 

Another song that might be easier for time and perform ability for a new guitar player is “love me tender.” Short, sweet. Simple folk melody that’s in pretty much every beginner guitar book, lol.

Post # 54
750 posts
Busy bee

I also don’t get why there are so many negative responses. This sounds like a great idea. It’s only a minute long ish and can’t possibly be any more awkward than the groom going under the dress to grab a garter which no-one seems to blink an eye at!

That being said, I actually think the idea of doing this at a first look is so romantic!

I think you should go for it

Post # 55
1866 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I think it you are going to do it you need to be quite outstanding.

I also wouldn’t stare into his eyes or have him sit in a chair in the middle of the dance floor or anything, if you are signing in front of everyone don’t make it too intimate cause that is super awkward. 

Post # 56
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

It’s not exactly the same but I adore this couple who sang together at their wedding! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBsate-JQAo


If you feel moved to do something, you should- This day belongs to you and your husband!

Post # 57
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Miami

themoonofhislife:  The only reason I mention stiicking to one thing (singing minus guitar) is it reminds me of my brother’s proposal. He’s an extremely talented guitarist, less experienced singer. He spent 6 months practicing and practicing singing and playing this one song to play to his now fiance on a trip to Ireland (he even hired someone to plant the guitar somewhere and then video tape it). He had gotten to where he could sing and play it in his sleep but it didn’t matter. When the moment actually came, his nerves got the best of him and he totally flubbed the words to the song and played it wrong. Which was fine and made for a cute story. But at your wedding, you’ll have even more eyes on you. But like you said, you’ll play all of it by ear (no pun intended).

On a side note, I’m really shocked by how many people think it’s awkward or asking to be the center of attention. It’s not awkward, it’s totally sweet. And center of attention? Hello! It’s the one day that truley is all about the two of you, and specifically about you’re love for each other. Do a searc on YouTube, there are plenty of videos of brides and grooms doing something similar.

Post # 59
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

themoonofhislife:  My issue with this kind of thing is how it tends to shift the dynamic/atmosphere when the party is in full swing.

My friend did this during a picnic once, we were all enjoying chatting/laughing and she gets the guitar out and we all have to sit there silently watching/listening to her impromptu gig. She’s a great singer but it killed the mood. 

Weddings have a lot of planned sections with speeches/cake cutting/first dance. People just want to relax and have fun after the ceremony  without any extra frills on top. 

Post # 60
2776 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

themoonofhislife:  nooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Omg I have been to 3 weddings where the bride (a professional singer, a reeeeally good singer and an amateur) sang. It was awful all 3 times. All three times guests clapped politely after the first song so the brides got it in their heads that the guests were enjoying it so…they sang more. And more. The really good singer treated us to 20 minutes of cringe-worthy, guests-leaving early, people giggling privately and mocking what you so aptly named their “attention whorish” ways. And her voice was incredible and she performed very well. But omg it made 300 people go “nooooooooooooo!”

The pro? She treated us to one song. 5 minutes of yawning, schadenfreude and mocking the bride.

The amateur? Her half a song was sweet in the way Cameron Diaz sang to her Fiance in My Best Friend’s wedding. Thinking back on it that was the best performance out of the three. Oh then one of my sister’s  friends sang at her wedding as her present. Ick. My sister later confided that she and her husband haaaaaated it. And they were making fun of her while she was singing. Seriously, don’t do it. 

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