- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2019
No, no, a hundred times no!!!
No, no, a hundred times no!!!
mtmt1311: Sorry you feel I was “not nice”. There wasn’t anything particular that I thought I said that was ugly by any means….especially if you compare my response to some other posts on here. Maybe I’m just a little assertive and a matter-of-fact kind of person. Geez. Don’t be so sensitive. Wasnt meant to cause a “rukus” so please don’t try and create one. No need. If you’ve done your research on entertaining your guests, then I wasn’t talking about you, your reception, your opinion, or response. If you simply have no clue about entertainment and you offered an opinion on what you thought I should do, ESPECIALLY on the topic I didnt even ask about, then I was talking about you. I asked the question about SINGING because I can see both sides of the opinion. I had mixed feelings about it and wanted to know how the majority felt about it, not only as a guest, but as a singing bride (if you’re a singer). As far as being a “bored guest”…..I’ve been that bored guest before. And I didn’t want MY friends/family to feel that way. We have dished out wayyyyy too much $$$$$ for my guests to “dread” coming to our wedding. PLUS, we live in a very small town where everybody knows everybody and everybody LOVESSSSS to talk….about EVERYTHING!!! Soooo, I figured…..LETS GIVE ‘EM SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT! Go big or go home baby! **Shrug**
ALSO, by reading another thread about singing/dancing at the reception, I learned something I never knew. In the traditional Hawaiian culture, the bride gives her groom a “dance” as a gift. We’re going to Hawaii for our honeymoon!!!! How APPROPRIATE and COOL is THAT???? All the more reason for us to do our well-planned-out Flashmob! 👍🏼
wilburnkn: geez. I was trying to be as nice as possible here. Go easy on me with all the capitalized letters. You said you arent creating ruckus but going wild with all the capitalized letters seem like you do. And be careful with citing other cultures, it could lead to cultural appropriation. If you go to my country for honeymoon and decided to borrow my country’s wedding tradition because its “cool” Im sorry but please dont. And with that, Im out. So out.
I vote no singing for all the reasons stated above.
And – don’t kill me – but I have attended a wedding where there was a flashmob. It was terrible 🙁 Equally cringeworthy…
I kind of love flashmobs if they’re done well.
So my good friend is also a singer like u… She’s in a band and does a ton of gigs every weekend and has a beautiful voice.
TBH we waiting for her to sing to him ALL night. we were so excited when she finally did. It was the last song of the reception and she sang Etta James At Last. Her voice rivals Etta’s and literally there was not a dry eye in the whole room, it was the HIGHLIGHT of the night…. I def think u should but do it at the reception, I think UR family and friends will LOVE it
wilburnkn: 95% of your poll respondents say No, they would not want to see this. Yet every follow-up you post indicates you’re still going to do it. So, have fun I guess. I’m sure nobody will tell you they felt awkward or were cringing, so you’ll never know. So you’ll come back here telling everyone how awesome it was and how everyone absolutely loved it because it was so you and your guests are different. But you should at least consider, are they really SO different that they all love it, when 95% of a random sampling says they’d hate it? But you’ll never know anyway and you seem to really want to do it. It’s not HURTING anyone, so whatever.
Xu: Not enough people knew the dance so everyone was just sort of standing there watching those who had arranged and practiced. It was awkward because all involved were quite proud of themselves but no one else seemed care. Also it was a poorly kept secret because most people knew it was coming, so there was no element of surprise. Just a really weird thing at a wedding. A few people were trying to learn it last minute, so they didn’t actually know what to do when it started. The older guests were confused. Just all around weird and didn’t add anything to the evening.
This was an amazing wedding other than the flashmob.
No to singing and a flash bomb. So awkward!!!
sometimes I’m more bored when people force entertainment on me, than when I’m just doing my things. You don’t need to worry about them being bored. there’s food to eat, people to talk to….
Oh geez, if you’re doing a flashmob then definitely don’t sing. That’s too much “entertainment” for one wedding, in my opinion.
ETA: It’s also kind of funny you say you want to do a flashmob because you don’t want guests to be bored. So you would rather they feel intense second hand embarassment? Because that’s the reaction of like, 99.9% of people watching a flashmob at a wedding. Even if they say it’s great or have smiles on their faces or know your “crazy” personality. They are cringing inside.
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