(Closed) SINGING BRIDE…Yay? Or Nay?

posted 4 years ago in Music
  • poll: TO SING or NOT TO SING
    You betta SANG IT! : (13 votes)
    7 %
    DON'T DO IT! : (176 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 76
    539 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    wilburnkn:  I’m chiming in as I was the bee in the other thread mentioning the traditional hula dance given to the husband. Just wanted to say that comparing your flash mob idea to a mildly inappropriate song is nothing like a meaningful and traditional hula where each movement and gesture holds meaning and a certain level of spirituality. My sis spent months with her kumu hula (instructor) creating something meaningful. Please do not compare your flash mob idea to this meaningful tradition.

    Post # 77
    418 posts
    Helper bee

    I think the day is already all about you and your husband…..  Do I think you need to get up in front of everyone and sing. NO.  

    I have seen brides sing, dance, or whatever other talent they have and it ends up feeling like i’m at a talent show and not a wedding.  My vote is a HUGE NO!


    Post # 78
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    wilburnkn:  LOL, I might be in the minority here, but it’s your wedding – do whatever you want!  As you’ve said, your friends and family know you and are expecting you to be you.  Apparently, if you were inviting all of WeddingBee to your wedding, a lot of people would not enjoy your efforts at entertaining them – but you’re not!  

    Having said that – if everyone knows you and knows you’d like to sing, it will be kind of fun to let there be some anticipation for it, and to sing at the end of the reception as another Bee talked about, rather than during the ceremony.  

    One way to think about it – performing at a ceremony is kind of a ‘gift’ – which is why often relatives, friends, etc. will do it, but brides rarely do… but I think the reception is different – if you’d make a toast, why not do it in song 🙂

    Post # 79
    12114 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    “But the RECEPTION will NOT be boring! I refuse to let my guests be BORED outta their minds constantly looking at their watch to see if it’s time to leave yet.”

    You’ve just proved my earlier point. You do think your affair should be better and more exciting  than every other. You consider yourself to be in  competition with the traditional reception, which you see as dull. 

    More likely if a wedding has to be a three ring  spectacle just to keep guests from being bored, then it’s either the guests or the hosts who are boring. 

    Post # 83
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee

    ClaudiaKishi:  Cringing inside, laughing at you on the outside (or looking for the bar)

    Post # 84
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017


    1. We have dished out wayyyyy too much $$$$$ for my guests to “dread” coming to our wedding

         – Did you just imply that all of your guests are so material that they’re only looking forward to your wedding because of how much money they just KNOW you’ve spent on it? Some of the most expensive functions I’ve been to were also the most cheesy and the most boring. Just saying.


    2. In the traditional Hawaiian culture, the bride gives her groom a “dance” as a gift

         – I’d be willing to bet that Hawaiian culture wouldn’t agree with your classification of a FLASHMOB as your traditional Bride’s dance.

    I’m happy you’ve been talked out of the singing (honestly, that YouTube video made me so unbelievably uncomfortable that I probably would have pretended to have had to use the bathroom and walked right out behind her!), but you need to reconsider this flashmob like YESTERDAY.

    Flashmobs have been done once or twice before… I highly doubt your guests are going to be as surprised and just in utter shock and AWE over your performance as you think they are… especially since you come from an entire family of performers lol

    Post # 85
    284 posts
    Helper bee

    My god. That video posted on the first page of the bride singing herself down the aisle like a pageant contestant or something actually makes me feel queasy haha. I can’t even IMAGINE what I would do if I saw this in real life. JUST NO

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