Singing during the ceremony — classy and romantic? or cheesy and awkward?

posted 1 year ago in Music
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

The only time I’ve seen music in the middle of the ceremony is during a religious ceremony in a church (hymn). I’d tend to agree with your husband’s view on this. What are people supposed to do during the song? I just find it sort of awkward just sitting there and listening to music for 3+ minutes. That would feel like a strangely long time.  If you do decide to do the music, I agree with your fiance-no singing. That definitely seems awkward to me.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agree with your Fiance. I think it’s cheesy and unnecessary. 

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’ve been to two weddings that had singing. Both times it was super awkward but that’s really because 1) they had bizarre song choices 2) they people they chose to sing weren’t good singers and 3) we had to listen to the whole 3-4 minute song even though whatever was happening during the ceremony took less than a minute so everyone just stood around awkwardly. 

I’m sure there are weddings where it’s been done well but that hasn’t been my experience.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Wedding singer here so obviously my opinion is biased, I have only ever been to a wedding that had no music during the ceremony and it was super awkward. The bride and groom moved over the sign the registry and it was just awkward silence broken up only by the quiet muttering of the minister instructing them on where to sign. 

When I perform at weddings it is almost always during the signing of the registry. It gives the guests a nice break while you are signing. There isn’t really anything interesting about the signing for the guests to watch. Having music will also stop them from talking and making the awkwardness worse. 

That being said, if you are dead set against having a singer you can always ask your musicians to “noddle around” during that part. They can vamp on the melody of the song you choose to walk in to or another favourite song of your choice

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Bee Keeper

I’m on team Fiance – no singing, but live music is lovely. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think singing would really distract from the actual ceremony.  Instrumental is fine, but lyrics are awkward.  Especially since it would be a live singer. 

I’ve never heard of a song in the middle of the ceremony. An entrance song, quiet ceremony music, and an exit song, that’s it for the many weddings I’ve been to. 

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Busy bee

We had singing during the signing of the register. My bff sang an amazing song then we had a couple of other songs played until we were done. 

It didn’t distract at all on a bad way because what we were doing was super boring for our guests anyway

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I wouldn’t do the singing during the middle of the ceremony, but I think during the signing of the registry or as an exit song it would be fine and could be lovely.

I’d only do it if your Fiance agreed though, and definitely don’t do the song he hates.

The only time I saw a live singer during a ceremony was my aunt’s wedding in the mid-90’s. She’s an opera singer so instead of vows she sang a song to him. I don’t remember it since I was a kid, but I saw the wedding video. My mom says she thought it was kind of weird but also typical of her lol.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Cheesy 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

awkward. I wouldn’t like it. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

mrsziggy :  I think I am in the minority here.  I’ve actually seen it done well! A beautiful song in the middle of a catholic ceremony.  I think it just depends on the performers and when you choose to use them.   I have a friend doing a long reading from Song of Solomon and he’s in the same band as a the guy doing guitar for our wedding.  I gave them license to put together something original if they wanted to.  Lol I can’t wait to see what they do!  I’m debating if we’re going to have the first and last song of our ceremony sung.  Our friend is in my FI’s band, and he also does solo shows and he’s amazing.  If people don’t love his performance they have no soul.

littleanchor :  I don’t think it’s awkward to sit and listen to a song.   People sit and listen to concerts all the time.  And at church your often sit and listen to a performance.  I think you just have to make sure it’s a good prefomer and a solid song choice.  Like who couldn’t use a little Ave Maria during the signing of the register?  As long as it was done well.

ETA Harry and Meghan had several choirs sing during their wedding.  I loved the stand by me so much I’m having it as my exit song!  Not sure if it will be sung though.

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Helper bee

My SO’s cousin recently got married, and her husband is a singer-songwriter (not big-time, but as a hobby). He wrote a song for her and performed it in the middle of the ceremony. I thought it was a little awkward as an audience member, but ultimately very sweet. Overall, I had positive feelings. 🙂

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Super awkward IMO, unless it’s like at a church ceremony.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

It’s bizarre to me that anyone would find this awkward… cheesy depends on the song choice IMO. Music, instrumental or vocal or both, is a really normal staple of many types of ceremonies, including weddings. You sit and listen to it, just like in church or a concert – how is that more awkward than sitting and listening to vows, readings, etc?

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