Post # 32
BookishBee : it isn’t. Readings are usually boring, too. And most of the time you can tell it is just filler created because you felt bad you didn’t want someone in the wedding party but thought they should be included. It seems so inorganic to call someone up just to read a few lines – incorporating that same text into the ceremony given by the officiant seems far less stilted.
The only differences between a reading and singing is that readings are usually shorter (a few lines to a few paragraphs taking under a minute vs. 3-4 minutes) and everyone can read but not everyone can sing (well) so it feels less like a put on performance with less judgment about the person’s talent.
Post # 32
I’d go the instrumental route.
I’ve only seen singing in the ceremony done ONCE that I thought it was sweet, and that was the wedding of two of my friends who are both musicians – the bride a singer and the groom a guitar player, so they sang a song for each other during the ceremony that was one of their songs. It wasn’t awkward because they’re both really good, but they also were well-rehearsed and it intertwined well with the wording and such of the ceremony. Then again, it was also the bride and groom doing the singing, not a random person during someone else’s ceremony.
Post # 33
During the ceremony it might feel like bad timing. Stalling while you want things to move forward.
I have seen weddings where the singer sang Ave Maria before the Wedding March. But that is in church. Lots of churches don’t allow non-religious music.
Post # 34
It’s pretty common in British weddings to have music during the signing of the register. We’ve got a string quartet who will be playing a processional and recessional, but also recommend we pick two songs for during the signing. I think during something happening (eg during the candle ceremony) is fine, but if you’re all just standing as music plays it’s a bit awkward.
The only time I’ve been at a wedding with there being singing, it was pre-recorded music. A friend of my fi really pushed for us to hire his girlfriend to sing during our ceremony, and I quickly shut that one down!
Post # 35
My best friend/bridesmaid is a classically trained opera singer and is absolutely phenomenal so I knew she had to sing during our ceremony. She will be singing Ave Maria while my fiance and I place flowers at the statue of the Virgin Mary. We’re getting married in a large churge with great acoustics so it should sound great. It won’t be very long, and I’m hoping people will enjoy it. If not, I at least know I will!
Post # 36
mrsziggy : ive been to multiple ceremonies with songs mid-ceremony. In one, her dad and a close friend were both semi-pro folk singers and did a lovely duet. In the other (actually the wedding of the friend who sang in the first wedding) her friends sang or performed a couple different songs.
It was nice, overall, imo. I did appreciate that the first one only did the one song and no readings–her wedding day was HOT (both were outside in amphitheaters). The second was in the redwoods and all shady and nice and I didnt mind hanging out outside for the long ceremony. I do think the fact all the musicians were friends and it was kind of their version of a reading was meaningful.