(Closed) Singing my vows

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should I sing my wedding vows?
    If you can do it then more power to ya! : (13 votes)
    23 %
    Ummm....Awkwarrrd : (43 votes)
    77 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I read on a blog a little while ago that one bride wrote it was the worst decision of her wedding to sing their vows!

    I’m not sure how it all would work, but just from my perspective, I think it would be a little strange!  But, of course, do what ever works best for you!

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

    I think this is an awesome idea!!  are you planning on singing this song by alicia keys?  While I think this would be a lovely sentiment, it could be even more touching if you change some of the lyrics to be your own worded vows (you could still use the same tune though, obviously!).

    If you’re at all nervous, I’d suggest you keep it a secret – the guests won’t have the mindset of watching a performance, but they’ll be surprisingly pleased!  I really think you should go for it!

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My sister’s husband sang a song to her after she walked down the isle. It was a complete surprise to everyone (pastor included)! It was sweet and he definitely isn’t a super-star singer! Just a suggestion!

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I absolutely love seeing unique & different things at weddings and feel that couples should have their ceremonies & receptions that are unique to their personalities. Plus everyone expresses their love differently!

    To avoid the shock factor you could add it to your program that your vows will be sung that way nobody gets startled when you start belting it out. But overall this is your chance to tell everyone how much you love your Fiance and you should express it the way you want to 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Sing at another part-there are plenty of opportunities.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Is anyone else having a flashback of Uncle Jesse singing "Forever" to Becky on Full House? No? Just Me? Okay.. anywayyyyyyy

    I think you are comfortable with it, it is a lovely way to make it personal. As you make this decision though, perhaps consider a few things: Will is make your groom feel awkward that he’s not singing? Will you be concentrating too much on how you sound than in the meaning of your vows? Are you comfortable with that attention — I have a feeling you may spend the rest of the night having people talk about that.

    As a guest, I personally would not enjoy it — but again that is JUST me. I would feel it was a little indulgent for the bride to do it and would feel a little awkward. However, your guests may feel completely different. Maybe ask your Maid/Matron of Honor or other close friends how they feel about it.

    Good luck and let us know what you decide!

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

    @GaBGal: I totally forgot about that scene in full house! I loved full house!

    found it for you guys, if you want to see it:

    I’m not surprised this poll is split 50/50 – I think what could make or break this is how personal and heartfelt you make the moment (and I don’t doubt that you will!)  Good luck on whatever you decide!

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    I voted awkward because as a guest at MY wedding with ME singing I can imagine my guests being uncomfortable BUT if your guests know you sing and if your FI is comfortable with it then I say GO FOR IT! I don’t know anyone who would be brave enough to do that (or anyone that can carry a tune ) I think it can be very touching and fun.

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I’m all for this, but I have a few thoughts:

    1) are you going to be emotional so that it becomes hard for you to sing?  That might make things complicated.

    2) Are you confident and rock-solid enough in your singing to get through it?   If you are a really amazing singer, this could be very touching.

    3) Is your groom going to sing his?  Would it seem weird if you did and he didn’t?

    Being here long enough, I’ve learned that anything can work… depending on the person and the vision!  

    If you have doubts or are unsure, you might want to sing at a different part of the wedding, but if you think you can pull it off, I say go for it!

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Instead of singing your vows, have you thought about singing in a different part of the ceremony? Or even at the reception?

    A friend of mine, as a total surprise to the groom, sang a song to him at the reception. I saw the video and it was very touching, cute, and people really enjoyed it.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t feel like this would make your guests uncomfortable.  That is, as long as it’s relatively short!  I don’t know if everyone has seen the YouTube video of the bride singing as she goes down the aisle (and I can’t get on at work or I would find it for you) but the thing that makes that video soooooo painful and weird is that she sings for like 6 or 7 minutes.  If it’s short and sweet, say 1-2 minutes tops, I would say go for it.  I mean, your vows are the most personal part of the ceremony, so I think it’s better to do something unusual but meaningful to you than just repeat words that have no significance to you whatsoever. 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I love it! If you won’t be too nervous or emotional to sing, then it’s a lovely idea. And of course, you would have to practice heaps beforehand, but it’s such a sweet gesture. If I were a guest I’d cry! Good luck!

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - Amy's Manor

    I think it’s a wonderful idea to sing something special to your groom. Without knowing the details of your wedding, etc. I would think it might be more comfortable for you, him and your guests if you waited until the reception. I’ve seen that done in the past and it’s so touching and everyone is much more open to the idea – it doesn’t seem so out of place. Overall, I thnk it’s a great idea, the timing may just need to be worked out. Keep us posted!

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