(Closed) Singing Vows

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I really wouldn’t do this. The novelty factor of singing your vows will be so strong that it will be too likely to distract your guests. Even moreso with the Twilight angle.  I would stick to verbal vows and if you or he wish to keep them secret till the ceremony, you can at least agree on some parameters in advance, such as how long they will be, or ask a neutral third party to review both his and yours to make sure they flow together and are more or less the same style and length.

Post # 4
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Are you a singer? If you have never sung in public, I wouldn’t chose your wedding to start! I’d be way too nervous.

Post # 5
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t like the idea. Singing a popular song isn’t the same as saying vows. Vows are meant to be your promises to the other person.

If you’re concerned about length and comparability many people discuss the structure of the vows beforehand. For us, we each said we would write out a section just basically telling eachother whatever we wanted to say (why we love the person, etc) and then we would each say. I take you ___ to be my wife/husband and then say our promises. So while I had no idea what his vows would say, both of ours were in the same format.

Also, if you want to surprise him with the song. Could you possibly pre-record it and play it as your first dance song?

Post # 6
2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I vote “don’t do it”.

Post # 7
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s a lovely idea…but I want to ask you something…have you ever heard someone who is really emotional try to sing?  It’s a very strained and difficult sound to listen to…I get wanting to express yourself, and that song is your chosen form, but this is a rather important and weighty subject, you risk being too emtional to actually sing OR make light of something very serious with your choice of expression.

Post # 8
4311 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Nona99:  This.

And I just think I would be absolutely horrified if someone did this to me for any reason.  But that’s just me.  I don’t know how your Fiance feels about stuff like this.

Post # 9
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I’m sorry but I don’t like the idea.  It seems more like a performance than ceremonial vows.  Can you use 1000 years as your ceremony music instead?

Post # 11
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My thoughts in no order- 

– Sounds like you’re doing because you want to be unique/to stand out – to wow your guests. But the vows aren’t for the guests, it is a very serious thing (it is the heart of the wedding ceremony!) that i (and many previous posters agree) should not be a performance …for your guests nor your groom.

– Practicing might make you focus too much on the singing, not on the meaning of what you’re saying

– Who knows how your emotions will be on your wedding day? Even if you’re not emotional I think it is very risky to assume how you’ll feel on your wedding day, when you’re face to face with the love of your life and in front of all your guests

– An aside, it sounds like you don’t really like your first dance song! ee! Are you really okay with that?


Post # 13
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

if i were a guest i would find it awkward and cringy.

Post # 16
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I love, love, love “1000 years.”  Love it.

However.  I would not love hearing someone sing it who was not Christina Perri (or Marley and Jake on Glee 🙂  I think I would just be cringing and praying for it to end.

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