(Closed) Single friends…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee

@msgraphics: Maybe he wanted to tell you in person, and just hasnt been able to yet?

Either way, I struggle with this too. I feel like I am at a different place in my life than some of my single friends, and we have been drfiting apart.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

i think a lot of us struggle with this in our friendships. We were the first of our friends to get married, and now there is only 1 other couple married. Since the wedding, I find that a lot of our friends don’t even include us anymore.  yeah, I know, we dont’ like going to the bars that are a half hour drive from our house. We don’t go to clubs anymore.  And it seems like that’s all they want to do, so they don’t ask us to do anything anymore. It sucks, but that’s the way it is.  Things are much different now, and I actually question some of these so called friendships, because we haven’t spoken to some of these people in over a year…

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@msgraphics: It seems for us, that whenever we invite people over, they say they will come and then never show up. Granted, we moved from where we lived before, buts its only 15 minutes from there, and for some friends, we are even closer now! We prefer to have people come over to our house as well, but we have gotten burned more than a few times, so now I don’t even invite those friends anymore. Its to the point now that I want to make passive aggressive posts on FB, but what does that solve?? It just hurts, because it seems like before the wedding, we were hanging out with all these people every weekend, and some we haven’t hung out with since the wedding…

Post # 8
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Honey bee

I think unfortunetly, its just part of growing up. Friendships change-sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse.

For the first few years after college I was SOO close to my college friends. We talked all the time, hung out, took vacations together, etc. But over the years, we have start splitting into smaller groups. There is the married group-we are buying homes, settling down, and spend our weekends painting and doing yardwork. There is the single group-they are dating, having fun, and spend all their time with friends. Then there is the in between group-have serious significant others, starting to move out on their own, etc.

I think for me personally, at different points in my life I am closer to different friends. It stinks and I miss the way friendships used to be 🙁

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, I wouldn’t think that him not telling you first has anything to do with you being married; prob the fact that he was waiting to tell you in person (like your last post indicated)

I struggle with this too w/ my single friends. They spend every weekend together, several times a week too; and I can’t go to everything & it seems like sometimes this upsets them. But it’s easier to hang out with other couples and go out w/ my husband and a group of our couple friends vs. going out with them (which means going out w/o my husband.) Which I do several times a month, but don’t wish to do every weekend….

The worst is when I have a dinner party, and it makes sense to invite other couples, then I really feel bad about leaving my single friends out…..

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