(Closed) Single Ladies for the Bouquet Toss

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe talk to the gf of the cousin and ask her to jokingly help you wrangle the sister and nieces for the bouquet toss?  It would help if it wasn’t just you calling everyone forward to it.  If the sister doesn’t walk up, then the nieces will!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I would definitely not do the bouquet toss! I think it will be really awkward .. even if his sister didn’t care, it’s so few people that it’s hardly worth the trouble.  I would probably try to convince him not to do the garter toss either, but if it’s really important to him, I’d say just do the garter toss without the bouquet toss.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

maybe do a different tradition of the bouquet toss… like preseting it to the oldest married couple. Or skipping it all together is fine. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I know that your fiance wants to do it, but honestly – won’t it be worse for you to do it and feel awkward than for you to skip it and have it go unnoticed? It took me about a week to realize that my brother’s wife never tossed the bouquet at their wedding.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Stick to your guns and don’t do it. Your instincts are right on this one.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m the girl who used to hide in the bathroom when I knew the bouquet toss was coming during a wedding reception. The one time I was coerced onto the floor with several other women, all of us literally *stepped back* when it was tossed and the bouquet fell on the floor. I skipped it at my own wedding because I always hated the tradition and we had only a couple of single female guests, anyway.

You could explain to your FI  that the bouquet toss is NOT the same as the garter toss. Some women are offended by it, and others are uncomfortable being singled out. He wouldn’t want to make your friend uncomfortable, right?

Or… I’ve read about some weddings where the bride invites ALL the women out on the floor and ties a gift card to the bouquet, which would remove the pressure from your single female guests.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why not just toss it to ALL the ladies? Some people attach a lottery ticket or something.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve also seen there be a special couples dance, where all the couples are invited to the floor to dance.  Periodically the DJ asks all those who’ve been together 10 years or longer to remain on the floor. Then 20, 30, etc etc until you’re left with one adorable sweet (usually older) couple to present the bouquet to.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Tell your Fiance most guys don’t actually want the garter toss.  I’ve only been at a few weddings where it’s been done, and generally it was very early twenties.  I didn’t even notice for a while that most skipped it.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Beluga:That’s what we’re doing. I want to toss it because quite frankly, it looks fun to do, but we only have one or two single ladies too. We’re going to announce that there’s a gift certificate for a movie on it and toss it to all ladies. Fiance will do the same with a ‘stunt garter’ that will be set to the side, not be removed from my leg, lol.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

At my son’s wedding, the single women were vying not to catch the bouquet.  I kid you not, one of them sort of scooped it up and tossed it to another as if it were a hot potato.  If you don’t want to have it, I’m sure your guests won’t care.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Please, please don’t do this!  I think it would make your FI’s sister feel like an idiot.  I think you either have to cut it out or toss it to ALL ladies, and attach a gift card or something to it like PP suggested.  I always hated  the bouquet toss even when there were plenty of other singles.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with previous posters – you know your guests, and it sounds like a boquet toss is something you might want to skip.  I’ve been pulled out for a bouquet toss before against my will when there weren’t many other single ladies and it was kinda embarrassing.  I think doing something else with your bouquet would be equally as meaningful and then you won’t have to risk embarrassing someone.  I understand your FI’s desire to stick with the tradition, but it shouldn’t come at the risk of making people feek uncomfortable.

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