(Closed) Single mom bride: feeling awkward.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I am a mom of a 10 month old and I don’t feel that way at all. I am marrying my fiance who is also my sons father. Our child was planned. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

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Lilybelt:  There is nothing ridiculous about a single mom getting married. Keep in mind that a wedding doesn’t have to be an elaborate princess type day. It’s just getting dressed up, attending a ceremony and having a party afterwards. Stay true to yourself and if some part of a traditional wedding feels off to you, skip it. Congratulations, btw! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m not a mom but from a non-mom perspective I’ll tell you it’s ALL in your head!! Unbelievable how we let our insecurities rule us! I assure you that nobody will be thinking the way that you are, you will be a beautiful bride…believe in yourself!

how many brides wearing white wedding dresses are actually virgins anyway these days? Come to think of it, I’m more likely to talk about the fact that a bride is still a virgin than a non-virgin bride.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Well, maybe if the long white dress feels off to you, get a nice white tea length dress? I don’t think you should feel weird about it which ever way you go.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Do not feel awkward. Nowadays, you are not the only one, that is for sure. There really isn’t the stigma there used to be. I do hope you will feel special as it will be YOUR day

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Bored6:  I’m not sure the parentage or the planned/unplanned nature of her  – or any child’s –  conception is the issue here, it’s that she feels odd at the idea of being a princessy type bride.

OP,  wear whatever you like and also have your little one part of the Wedding Party if want . You could  have a soccer themed wedding if you like ! 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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Lilybelt:  My kiddo was five when we got married. Plus, I was 33.  I have never been married, either.  I skipped a veil LOL- but we still had the big wedding and I had a poofy dress LOL 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m a mom too and this is my first wedding…just do whatever is comfortable for you. you might even need and enjoy a day of pampering. Running after a 4-yo is hard and we can fall into routines as moms where we just don’t focus enough on ourselves.

and PP- I agree that that “our child was planned” comment wasn’t even  needed. That’s not the issue here at all and planned or not, it doesn’t change that you’re a parent. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - backyard wedding!!

I’m a mom of a 7 y.o and my Fiance has a 9 y.o! This is our 2nd marriage- and we’re still having a wedding! It’s a simple small one- but still- a celebration of our love! It’s a great day for you too ! Enjoy! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Not a mom. However, don’t have it make it a fluffy princess wedding if you don’t want to. Do what is most comfortable for you. If that is a garden-style wedding with a simple tea-length dress or a cute sundress at a backyard BBQ – do it and enjoy what the day is about – your union! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

First off, congrats! And I think you should rock your big white weddinf! Your family and friends will all be happy for you. No one will think you are playing dress up. Enjoy the day – you deserve it!

btw – some of the cutest wedding pictures I’ve ever seen have included the couple and a small child. One my photographers photographed was written up in a blog. Single mom (a nurse) of a little girl (7 years) married a single guy (doctor – they met in the hospital cafeteria for a lunch date – lol). The guy was swinging the little girl around in one of the pictures with the bride looking on and wiping away a tear. I cried I was so happy for them. And I didn’t know them! 

Your day is going to be fantastic! 🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

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Lilybelt:  I’m a single mom but my issue is not the soccer mom issue. It’s more of i don’t like showing my feelings especially in front of people. Everyone thinks i have this b***h personality and that i am not capable of love.  After i booked my venue and bought my dress reality kicked in and i was like this is silly, this is not me. Why didn’t i just elope? don’t worry you’re not the only one feeling a little funny. I never in my life thought i would get married.  I didn’t cry when i bought my dress. I settle for the first dress i thought i looked good in. I have no vision of what i want my wedding to be like because i never grew up dreaming of this day. I became a young mother and became strong for her and it shows in my personality. Im just not into that prince fairy tale wedding. 

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