- 3 weeks ago
I’m 28 years old and the past few years have been the most difficult of my life. I went through Heartbreak and Depression, and thought i’d never make it through to a more relaxed state. Now i’m feeling better about that, I realise how important it is to have family and friends around me. I like my own company, but it gets boring quickly. I thrive on having people around me.
The problem is, I don’t have alot of people around me. I have a very small family which consists of grandparents, parents, and a brother who doesn’t really care to know me. Friends I go out with, I can only count 2. And i’ve drifted apart from them. They are in adult relationships/married with their own homes. I still live with parents as its hard to afford living on my own on my pay. I sometimes feel inadequate around them and worry they look down on me as I continuely have failings in dating and can’t afford my own place. I still see them on occasion, but its every few months now. We can go a week+ without speaking.
Another friend has moved countries, so obviously I don’t get to see her anymore. Another went right off the radar after getting a boyfriend. Work, I find it hard to make friends anyway, so just haven’t clicked enough with anybody. Plus I think its hard to form a close friendship when you have to stay professional aswell. (I am a manager so need to keep professional too)
I’m worried that as time goes on, my 2 friends will have even less time for me as they have families and I will feel even more lonely.
Sometimes i’m so lonely, I have anxiety attacks because I don’t know how to rectify this. 🙁 I just picture myself eventually living on my own, hardly anybody visiting. (If atall) and how low i’ll be because of it.
I’m not really into dating or apps at the moment and with my record anyway, i’d rather have solid friendships than a relationship.
I’ve thought about clubs etc, but I don’t have alot of hobbies and besides, I find it weird and desperate to attend these alone.
I’m looking into getting a car soon which will give me more freedom, but that still doesn’t solve the issue with loneliness.
Has anybody else been here before and can relate or does anybody have any ideas of what I can do? I believe there are alot of charities for older people who feel lonely, but nothing for young people.