(Closed) Sinking feeling

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
525 posts
Busy bee

I had this recently when I realised I won’t be engaged for Christmas based on some comments from him about needing to ‘save money for a big spend ;)’… I know that it’s hard but just try and focus on the fact that the man you love wants to spend the rest of his life with you and will be buying the ring soon! The proposal is one of the only things that is completely up to the guy so I would just look forward to having a lovely birthday with your soon to be fiance! (And I know how much harder that is to do than to say… trust me… but luckily we have the waiting boards to come rant on!!)

Post # 4
193 posts
Blushing bee

@Affin: Aw don’t fret just yet! You still may have a chance! Most jewelry stores offer a ‘buy now pay later’ plan. For example… He could put a down payment oon it of $200, bring the ring home, and then pay the rest of the cost off slowly (finance it, etc). I know that some stores around where I live have an sale on right now where you can take the ring home THAT DAY, and there’s no interest or payments until 2012. I’m sure there’s some fine print in there somewhere, like you need a down payment or something. But i’m sure it can’t be that much.

If your man does his research, he’ll find that it’s not as hard as it may seem!


Post # 5
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Maybe he’s just saying that to throw you off the scent?

Post # 6
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m in the same boat.  My birthday is this weekend, and I found out last night that he hasn’t bought the ring yet.  ๐Ÿ™

I’ll tell you what.  I promise to smile my biggest smile at my Boyfriend or Best Friend tonight if you promise to do the same at yours!

Post # 7
843 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it….my guy used the exact same words, “I’m saving for a big expense” and a month later we’re engaged.  He kept saying stuff like that until the engagement, thinking back on it.  Always throwing me off!

Post # 9
1730 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

At least you know better than to look for a small box under the tree now, and can simply enjoy whatever is there?  It sucks, but the allowing yourself to feel “let-down” now might actually help you get past the holidays better, without feeling super anxious or sadder as we go from turkey to indoor trees.


Post # 10
226 posts
Helper bee

That feeling sure does suck! Think of it this way, you wouldn’t want him to propose on your anniversary because then you miss out on a present and you don’t want it on your bday because then you have to share the day with him! Same with Xmas, you miss out on presents! ๐Ÿ˜‰ At least if he does it on a day that has no holiday your getting another special day to have with him rather than sharing an already special day with your engagement! hehe

Post # 11
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dreamingofbling: LoL!  I totally agree… I honestly never wanted a holiday proposal or wedding for that reason.  Maybe I’m just greedy, but I want my gifts!  LOL.. more importantly, I just like celebrating holidays/anniversaries/birthdays.  There’s more days to celebrate if events don’t share dates!

Post # 12
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Can I just say I love you guys for helping me realize I was NORMAL when I was like this?? I thought I was BSCrazy. :/ I kept feeling I shouldn’t be the least bit upset….but I was. lol.

Now I’m good. So…..it works itself out, if that helps. Sometimes it just takes a while. My Fiance had the ring for MONTHS. And I KNEW. I felt like an ingrate for being all “why hasn’t he done it yet.” And none of my friends had gone through this yet, so whenever it would come up they’d feed me the “just be patient, you shouldn’t feel pressured, you should just this and this.” <– I know. It’s not helpful. So I won’t recommend it. I just recommend taking a step backand realizing him having the ring or talking about the ring is a VERY good sign. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We have the ring and he still says that.  But he also fake proposes and pretends I don’t know where the ring is… ahh, the nature of a jokester.

Post # 15
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think he either has already bought it and said “coming up” because he didn’t want to imply that it’s already in his hands, OR, he very well might be waiting for a certain deal coming up with all the holiday sales. Jewelry stores on Black Friday do all kinds of sales, so if he hasn’t gotten it yet, i wouldn’t be surprised if he’s out “running errands” this friday! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Fiance told me he was still saving for the ring, even after he had bought it.  Don’t give up yet! ๐Ÿ™‚

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