Post # 1
I have been engaged and planning my upcoming wedding for over a year and purchased my dress nearly a year ago. Two weeks ago my brother and his (now) wife surprised our family by announcing they had eloped After becoming engaged secretly a couple of months ago. I was a bit irked that they didn’t just wait until after our wedding (the date of which was determined nearly a full year ago) but the kicker here is that she (knowing full well what my dress looked like and having a picture of it in her possession) wore essentially the exact same dress that I purchased a year ago for my wedding in two weeks. I feel like it wouldn’t be as big of a deal if the weddings weren’t so close, but getting impulsively married a month before our long-planned event in the same dress as me seems rude. Am I crazy?
Post # 3
@Peapod22: if they eloped, no one is really going to see her dress then. i would let it go.
Post # 5
@Peapod22: You said it’s “essentially” the same dress meaning its not the exact same dress, right? In any event, they eloped sthat hey didn’t have any guests to see so I wouldn’t sweat it if I were you. And no, I don’t think they were rude.
Post # 6
@Peapod22: “wore essentially the exact same dress” – was it actually the same dress, or a very similar one?
I can understand being annoyed if it was literally the same dress – but even so, they eloped, noone else was there, noone is going to compare you.
Post # 7
@Peapod22: I say this gently and with understanding: Yes. You’re crazy. This is not a big deal and you will be happier if you let it go. You are the only person who cares about this, 99% of people at your wedding will not know/notice/care, and by letting it get to you, YOU are letting it destroy a little piece of your wedding happiness. Don’t let something this unimportant do that to your happiness!
Post # 8
they eloped. So no one will really notice. Was it the exact same dress? or just one very similar? either way, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery 🙂
They weren’t rude. I would let this one go! Be happy for them and move on. Enjoy your special time.
Post # 9
@Peapod22: She sounds like a loooovely girl. Honestly they just made themselves look pretty bad. Trying to “beat” you to the alter and her wearing a dress like yours. Screams jealousy. I would say just let it go since now you know what kind of couple they are. Yes you only get one day. but i dont know why they couldn’t have waited. Maybe you will hear she is pregnant soon who knows.
Post # 11
@Peapod22: I would say yes, that’s quite rude of her. However, your family wasn’t there to see her, by the time your wedding comes around everyone will be so excited for your big EVENT, her NEWS won’t be on their radar. 🙂 Besides, no one really pays as close attention to your dress as you do, remember that 🙂
Post # 12
It’s not rude of her to wear a similar dress to yours. It’s not even rude of her to wear the same dress as you.
Your wedding will be radically different, and I doubt anyone goes to weddings to compare dresses between brides (let alone between a dress they only saw from photos).
It’s her wedding, she can do what she wants.
Heck, you shouldn’t even be upset that they eloped before your wedding – you should be happy for them.
Post # 13
They eloped. Trust me, no one will care.
Post # 14
This is so not worth being upset. They eloped. They didn’t tell anyone or have anyone there. Perhaps even to try to avoid any ill feelings from you a your fiance. Who the heck cares what she wore? It’s not like she’s wearing it to your wedding. And, honestly, a whole lot of wedding dresses look similar. And nobody remembers them. I got married 2 weeks ago and I’d be surprised if half the people there could describe my dress right now. So congratulate them and be excited for them and don’t raise a stink about a dress. Not worth it.
Post # 15
They eloped! No one is going to care if you have the same dress!
Post # 16
They eloped, no one saw her wearing the dress. When I see wedding pictures I might for a second look at a brides dress, after that it is just a white dress. And I doubt I would even remember that it was the same one on somebody else. Definitely not something to worry about!