(Closed) SISTER AND NEPHEW WEDDING DRAMA

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Wonderstruck:  I wish the Bee had a “like” button….

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For me, if the child isn’t agreeable, or is someone who won’t listen well, they probably shouldb’t in the bridal party.

Very young children are different. You may just have to suck up the hair, and trust me, the idea of a rats tail is absolutely disgusting in my mind…but I’d suck it up.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think your sister is doing the right thing by shielding them from an aunt who obviously favors one child over the other, and is asking the one she clearly favors least to change his hair.

She’s being a good mom.

 

 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Rat tails take years to grow!! If I had one, I’d be pissed if someone wanted me to cut it for, as you said “just 1 day”

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@eloping: lol you are bolder than I missy!!! love it.

 

As for the original question, If I were your sister i would be hurt that you care so much about appearances that you would ask my son to change his hair in order to be in your wedding. So I do think you are in the wrong.

ETA: I also noticed you updated to say you are going to apologize and ask them to be there (rat tail and all!) and that I think is the right thing to do. On that day the most important thing is to have those you love with you. So good for you! I hope it all gets smoothed out.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am a mom and would have acted the same way.  You probably hurt the little guys feelings and she is just being protective.  Its also offensive to ask if he will behave its like you have nothing nice to say about the kid.

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

While I am not a fan of Rat Tails, most of them are low enough that it can get tucked to a jacket/shirt for pictures and ceremony. I also agree with PP that a year from the wedding is not the time to create waves over something like this. I would have waited until a little closer to see if he took care of it on his own, or given him some other options that work for everyone involved.

He may be attached to it because of his father. If he came home from his dad’s with it, there may be more to it there and their relationship.

I also think you need to work on your relationship with him. Take him out one weekend and do boy things just you and him. A few trips like that can go a long way to making a relationship stronger, and then questions like compromising with the rat tail are much easier to handle because there is a stronger relationship in place.

Hope this helps.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Pinkmoon:  Jedi’s have rat tails thats why most little boys get them!

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