Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors
So, my mom called me this morning freaking out about my sister being my Maid/Matron of Honor. I think that as my sister Maid/Matron of Honor is where she belongs. My mom doesn’t think she will have the time starting a new job that is gonna be 50 hours a week, 2 babies and a boyfriend who is around but MIA half the time and wants me to shuffle my order. It’s technically too late to do that because I already bought some really cute “Will you be my MOH/Bridesmaid?” invitations off Etsy and the seller is sending them out directly. I know my sister is gonna need help buying her dress and a few other things so I’ve already accepted that I’ll need to help her a bit. I also asked my other friend who is going to be a bridesmaid (who is a phenomenal planner) to be some extra support for her. I don’t need her to do anything really besides stand next to me on my wedding day and maybe help a little bit with planning of a shower and bachelorette party (and I don’t want anything crazy for that either).
Post # 2
It sounds like your sister should be the one says that she could do it or not..
Post # 3
I’m a pretty firm believer that bridal party roles should be determined by relationships and not by anything else (ie how ‘available to help’ they are or how much money they have) and it sounds like you made your decision based on that too.
If your sister chooses to decline that’s her choice, but I see no reason for her to not have the option! Stick with your gut bee, this is between you and your sister!
Post # 4
Your mom needs to butt out. Your sister can make that choice on her own. For all your mom knows maybe having a fun distraction of being in a wedding is just what your sister needs. She can’t assume anything at this point. If your sister realizes that she can’t afford being maid of honor or doesn’t have time that is a decision she can make on her own.
Post # 5
Let your sister decide this for herself, and make sure she knows that if she does accept, she’ll have plenty of support when it comes to planning things but that really all you need is for her to stand up there with you. I think your mom has you and your sister’s best interests at heart, but talk to your sister and get her input too.
Post # 6
I agree with everyone else. This is your sister’s choice, not your mom’s. She might be offended forever if you house someone else over her! You can give her the option to say no, but i definitely think you should stick with your original plan!