(Closed) Sister backing out of the wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow….although I believe in God. I wouldn’t pull out of my sister’s wedding if she didn’t. I say don’t worry about to much, try to find someone else to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man, and flower girl. You still have time.

Post # 4
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m neither Atheist nor Agnostic. In fact I’m a pretty devout Christian, I hope my response is welcome.

I am so terribly sorry to hear that your sister did this! She is so misguided. I empathize with your hurt over her actions and her judgemental statements.

 “I am a good, nice person. I love my family and friends. I volunteer my time and give donations to the less fortunate. I have never critized her for her beliefs.”I want to also tell you to stop trying to justify your worth as a person to her or to anyone really!! You don’t owe her or anyone that. Your non-belief in any god does not mean you have any less innate worth as a human being, or that you can’t have a loving, lasting marriage!!


Post # 5
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh that is just so terrible 🙁 I’m so sorry.


I’m a Christian but I would never ever say that to anyone let alone my sister. And I certainly wouldn’t pull out of a wedding. What does your family think?

Post # 6
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m on the other side, my dad’s side of the family won’t come because they are baptist and I am Episcopalian. My grandmonster says I am going to hell because I am not baptist. My mom & dad are Methodist and they are just happy I go to church. I wouldn’t have invited my dad’s mother anyway because she said she would have rather me been killed by my ex husband who beat me almost everyday than to have gotten a divorce. Of course, this is coming from a woman who said that she would rather her son (my Uncle) die than to be married to his first wife.


I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you don’t mind if I pray for you, not that you will change, just that you will have a wonderful wedding day.

Post # 9
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I also wanted to say, that no matter what your sister is your sister and she should remember no matter what. You are in my thoughts and everything will be fine. By they way, I’m on your side you have every right to be hurt. Hugs to you

Post # 10
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so so sorry! Did this just happen? Maybe give your sister some time to cool down and try to talk to her? Maybe it was heat of the moment and she’ll reconsider once she cools down? That was really inappropriate and hurtful and I can’t believe she would do something like that to her own sister, but people can get really emotional, so I’m hoping level heads will prevail in the end. And if not, try to be respectful, but DO NOT let her make you feel bad for your beliefs or your wedding!!!! Hugs!

Post # 11
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh I’m so sorry.  

I’m Atheist, but intolerance breeds a lot resentment and hurt no matter where it comes from.

I wish I had words of advice for you, but mostly I’m sad for you.  I’m sad all your amazing qualities aren’t enough to make your sister love you through your differences.


Post # 12
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aww I’m sorry your sister is so misguided. Could you write her a letter telling her how much tis hurts you. Tell her your a good person and that it isn’t her place to judge(right). I would end with what would Jesus do? You know make her think!

Post # 13
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think the whole ‘marriage under god’ thing is total BS. I am not religious so I find it really offensive when I hear that. My marriage will be between my husband and I, not god.

I have no problem with other people being religious. It’s a totally personal choice. What upsets me is when people think they are better than me simply because they believe in god. Or they try to push their belief onto me.

I’m so sorry that something so trivial has but a spanner in the works of your beautiful day. Just don’t feel bad about her decision. She is the one that will look back and regret not being there for her sister.

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