(Closed) Sister BM Date Drama….

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aww, I’m really sorry for the drama.  Sounds like your sister and my sister would get along, as they have similar stories.  Etiquette would say that since you gave her a +1, she’s allowed to bring whatever person she wants and you opened that door in giving her the option.  However, it does seem like you have reasonable fears with having him at the wedding.  Are you close enough to sit down and talk to her about it?  Would your dad be willing to take the hit and tell her he doesn’t want the guy around (my dad would have zero problem telling my sister not to bring either of her children’s fathers anywhere near the family)?  Could you suggest to her someone else to bring instead, maybe a supportive friend of hers that isn’t already invited?

I think it’s going to come down to someone from your family sitting and talking with her about what you’ve mentioned above.  Just be open and honest with her, remind her you love her, expect pregnant emotions may come into play, and take it from there.  The worst thing that happens is she brings him anyway, and you’d be no worse off than you are right now.

Post # 5
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Hugs hun, this is a sticky situation.

I would speak to your father about this one, if your parents are paying for a portion of the wedding, they can veto guest invites.  Perhaps your sister will be too busy being a Bridesmaid or Best Man to have a date? 

If he does end up going, make sure the hall staff are aware and there is a person designated as the “referee” for the wedding (a lot of halls make you do this anyways) and if he’s getting out of hand, they can notice it early and get him outta there!  We have 2-3 guests that are notorious for starting drama and our reception location, the coordinator and a trusted uncle are all very aware of these people.

Best of luck!


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