- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I don’t want this to turn into one of those ugly “you shouldn’t be mad at your Bridesmaid or Best Man for being preggers” posts… Just explaining the situation and seeing how others would handle it.
My younger sister, who is turning 21 in 2 days, has a 4 month old daughter. This daughter was born under interesting circumstances- my sister got pregnant, had a tubal pregnancy, lost the baby, then got pregnant again 6 months later, boyfriend cheated 6 months into her pregnancy and got the OTHER girl pregnant, and then treated her like crap after she left him, only to find out that he wasn’t the baby’s dad in the first place.
Drama to the extreme, no?
So, I get a message today that reads “I don’t think you want me in your wedding”… I knew immediately she was pregnant again.
This particular baby is with the new boyfriend, whom she has been dating all of 4-5 months. Whatever. He’s nice enough, and good to my niece. Annoyed, a little disappointed in her, but still. She’s my sister.
At any rate, I don’t know what to do. My rational side says that it’s rude to kick a person out of the wedding party for being pregnant. I would be upset if it were me. It’s never been something I would consider doing.
HOWEVER, she herself has expressed financial concerns over the price of the dress before, and now she’s pregnant again, it will be even more difficult for her. She will also be 7 months pregnant at the wedding, which could be complicated if she has any kind of problems with the pregnancy.
At this point, I feel like leaving it up to her. She hasn’t been that excited about my wedding thus far, and I don’t want her to feel like she HAS to be in the wedding just because I asked her. If she wants to, great, but I don’t want her in it unless she WANTS to be in it…. she won’t be much fun to be around if she doesn’t really want to do it.
Has anybody else faced a similar situation? How was it handled? How would you handle it if it were you?