Post # 31
Based on your previous posts, it seems you only come on here to stir the pot. Either you are a troll or this means you seek out these situations. If you find your life having a lot of drama in it, the only common denominator is you, Bee. If that is the case, I would also, as PPs have said, recommend seeing someone.
Post # 33
I couldn’t agree with you more.
Post # 34
My husband and I can’t have kids. So, if we can’t have them, should we have told all our siblings that they can’t have them either?
There is always going to be someone in life that has something you don’t have. You can either always fixate on what you missed out on or couldn’t have, or you can choose to build a life that still has meaning and be happy. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Post # 35
She didn’t do anything to you.
Post # 36
I understand it must sting to see this becoming a reality for your sister when it couldn’t happen for you. Try to remember that your sister isn’t doing it to be hurtful. She’s doing it because, like you, she wants a beautiful wedding. And why shouldn’t she have one? Work hard to not dwell on it and focus on the other positive things in your life. It’s in the past, leave it there.
Post # 37
Initially when reading the title i could understand being upset…But then i saw you were already married. You could have waited until you could save up enough money or eloped and done a bigger ceremony there later but you chose not to.
The venue isnt off limits to her now. I bet its beautiful and thats why you wanted yours there and now she does too!
Post # 38
If you were both engaged and planning your weddings, I could almost see this. You’ve been married for five years. How long do you think you have dibs on a place you didn’t choose?
Post # 39
if you loved it that much, so much that you are jealous of your sister about it, then you should’ve waited to save up for your dream venue. This whole post just oozes of jealousy, bitterness, and self-pity. Just be happy for your sister, for gods sake. It’s been 5 years since you got married so obviously having a “bigger wedding” later is now looking like a 10 yr vow renewal anyway.
Post # 40
Exactly what I thought! 5 years and no 2nd wedding plans or savings whatsoever and she has the audacity to claim the place as her own. Grow up woman *eyeroll*
Post # 41
l thought no, she can’t seriously be complaining her sister is ‘doing something to her ‘ by having her wedding at a venue OP dreamed about 5 years ago but didn’t actually use . Then l realised who OP was , the woman for whom nothing is ever enough. My favourite thread was, l think, the one she posted about her dream ring which she had gone from loving to hating in two weeks. The hating picture looked like it was in need of a clean and taken in bad lighting, almost as if she wanted to hate it.
OP, you are , I believe, sabotaging your own life and happiness and while l almost never think ” therapy’, l do for you .
Post # 42
It’s ok to vent to us gurl unlike some of the ” other ” bees no judgement
Get it off ur chest , vent away , and when the night comes enjoy and be happy for yr sis
All u. Can do
Luv ur fellow bee
Post # 43
This is an immature reaction on your part, but one that only a sister could get from us. What is it about sisters that drives us up the wall? Whatever you do, don’t say anything and just keep swimming xxx
Post # 44
@barbgordon: Unrelated to the OP but my comment was moderated for rudeness? I have seen users here say much more meaner things to each other. I was pointing out the harsh criticism there seems to be here when someone has a human emotion towards something even though they know its petty.
Other bees were meaner to you on here but ok.
Post # 45
Wow, where did all the supportive love go on this forum? Can we try not to be judgemental jerks to each other? We’re all experiencing a global pandemic and need grace.
I hope you are able to find a place of calm about this whole thing. At the end of the day, this is your sister, and your relationship with her will last a lot longer than your feelings about this decision of hers. It’s very possible that her decision is triggering some grief around your dream wedding, and that’s very real and valid. However, please don’t make this about your sister. This is about you and your experience.
All the best!