- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
My younger sister and I aren’t close. We speak on the phone maybe once a year. Much of our distance has to do with how we were raised and her general attitude towards life (I had to work to pay for college and my car, she was handed these things and she is a very negative person). I recently got engaged and we’re planning a very small wedding. Twenty-five to thirty people. I decided to have just my best friend in the wedding as my Maid/Matron of Honor. If I add my sister, whom I’m not at all close to, I have to add my fiances sister, and then he has to add two more guys to balance things out. We would have 8 people in the wedding party (including us) that’s 1/3 of our wedding guests in our wedding. I just want the people most special to us sharing that moment and sadly, that doesn’t include my sister. I told my mother my wishes and she became extremely upset and hung the phone up on me. During each previous conversation she not only expressed how much she thinks I should have my sister in the wedding, but also managed to make every conversation about my sister, my sister’s needs, my sister’s issues. I thought this wedding would be about my fiance, soon to be husband, and I….not my mom and sister. I feel like I can’t win as having her in the wedding would cause drama and not having her in it would be utter and complete drama.