- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
How do I respond to this?
In my dream world, my sister has always been my first choice as Maid/Matron of Honor. I know we are not super close, but she’s my only sister, and should be Maid/Matron of Honor. During the first two weeks of engagement she nagged at me asking if I had chosen Maid/Matron of Honor yet. Finally I asked her, she excitedly said yes.
My first time ever looking at dresses, she bailed on me with a text saying, she wouldn’t be there.
Weeks later we are driving to the bridal store so I can show my mother, sister, best friend, and Future Mother-In-Law the dress that I thought was “the one” sister tells me in the car that she was stepping down as Maid/Matron of Honor due to the fact that she would “only offend me.” whatever.
When I put on the dress, everyone was so excited for me, except sister. Not a smile, nothing. She has been like this ever sense. Never asked for the engagement story, never asked to see the ring. Wouldn’t help with save-the-dates.
Then there were the bridesmaid dresses. I selected six of these dresses, http://tinyurl.com/2ukgmsv, and told my girls they could pick whichever one that flattered them the most. Pretty nice, right? sister was horrendous the entire time when she was trying on dresses. Once she would finally show me what one looked like, she refused to show any emotion other than pure resentment. Finally she decided on a dress. She measured at a size 8, but the 6 fit her beautifully, but despite this, she demanded to go with a 4 while declaring, “I will lose the weight.”
I just want her out of the wedding party and out of the wedding. She’s being a nightmare and I don’t want her around if she’s going to be a kill joy all the time.