- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Well, it looks like there is a 95% chance that my sister (and my MOH) is NOT going to be in my wedding.
My sister and I have always had a fairly rough relationship. She is six years older than I am, and moved out when she was 16, so we didn’t exactly grow up together. I personally think that she’s bipolar and she rarely communicates with anybody in the family. When I got engaged in November, I wanted her in my wedding and asked her immediately. She had been coming to family functions and responded to text messages. I asked her when we were all together for Christmas and she said no. She expressed concerns that she didn’t know what she was doing and would mess it up, and then I told her that a married friend would be Matron of Honor and she would be Maid of Honor and that they could work together, so she accepted.
Fast forward a couple of months and she’s slipping back into her habit of not answering phone calls, texts, or e-mails. My mom, my grandparents, and I have all tried to contact her multiple times and she has only responded to me once (after she left me waiting at the store to order her dress for the wedding without explanation).
I’m terribly afraid that she’s getting into the wrong crowd at her new job. She’s always hung out with sketchy people and she’s acting exactly the way she used to in the past when she was hanging out with bad people, drinking a lot, possibly doing drugs…and I don’t know what to do. My mom and I are reaching out but she still isn’t responding. It’s totally not about my wedding (because I’m never going to ask her to step down and will only stop asking her about it when she tells me she isn’t interested), it’s just wanting her to be responsible and continue down a path that will keep her safe and happy and with the family.
Sorry for the long post. I don’t even know what I’m looking for here 🙁 I guess I just needed to get it out. Thanks for listening!