(Closed) Sister drama

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Potter07: Could she be a guestbook attendant? Or do a reading at the ceremony?

Post # 4
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Newbee

Look. If your sister is theiving addict in denial about her status then I’m sure the last thing on her mind will be your wedding. If your feel able, spend any time you have and try to go with her to group/classes/sessions etc, but you need to put your nuptuials to one side for the minute (just with her), for now.

Post # 6
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Newbee

It’s great to hear that you have attempted to support your sister. Wedding aside, it is going to take a h*ll of a lot of time and effort (If you are goint to stand by her) to try and rehabilitate her.

As I said, I’m afraid, your wedding means very little to her. Until she is willing to address the significant issues in her life then perhaps she shouldn’t be inciuded in the Wedding Party.

Post # 8
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Newbee

You have quite a bit of time before your wedding. It may be that things are somewhat easier nearer the time. I hope they are. Good luck.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My sister is very similar, with the exception of the drugs.  But she just graduated college with nothing in her future, just got out of a relationship she was convinced was going to end in marriage but she screwed it up because she jsut cant stop treating people badly.  She’s living with my parents and sits around and does nothing but bitch about her life and is horrible to my mom, treating her like she’s the scum of the earth and like she owes her everything.  My sister is 23, its time for her to grow up.  But, she is in my wedding.  She has said horrible things to me, going as far to say that she’s preferred another boyfriend I had in high school to my fiance.  Who says that??  BUT, she is a bridesmaid simply for the reason that she is my sister. I don’t expect her to do anything but show up and look pretty.  I see her being the single drunk sister at the reception, the one that you see in movies!  I battled with myself over her being my maid of honor, but I just can’t have her as it because of the lack of kindness and support she shows to me and my mom.  I want my day to be special and I know that the title of Maid/Matron of Honor will not change her behavior and will probably further ruin the rocky relationship we have now.    My mom understands that I only put her in the wedding for her sake and she will not be the maid of honor for these reasons.  For the sake of tradition is another reason she is in the wedding.  I love my sister and want her in my wedding because blood is thicker than water and family will always be there, but I don’t expect her to do anything than just be at the wedding.  Good luck to you, I know sister drama is one of the worst dramas!    

Post # 10
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4477 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is a tough one.  I understand how you feel.  Life with an addict is a nightmare, and if the addict’s not receptive to help, there is little you can do to help them.  In the end, do whatever you feel most at peace with. Be aware that people will notice if one of your sisters isn’t in the bridal party.  But what people think will matter little if you think having to deal with your sister too much will be too stressful.  And hell, if it’s 12 hours away it might end up being a moot point as she might not even show up.

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We have the same sister, well sort of. You pretty much described her. Even though others don’t understand that I loaved her and my mom pretends that my sister didn’t do horrible things to us. I wrote a post about her too. And everyone who commented on my post told me I shouldn’t have her as my bridesmaid. But I still am, I not really asking her to do anything just should up to events like bridal shower, rehersal and of course the wedding since she’ll be there anyway. I don’t want to have drama and maybe one day she’ll realize her ways and come to peace with me so making her a Bridesmaid or Best Man would keep ties between us still tangled together so later I won’t regret it.

But for you if you don’t want to keep ties with your sister then don’t make her a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She’ll prob be upset but if thats ok with you in the long run. Then don’t have her be one.

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