- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Sorry this is long and a bit detailed but I felt some background information was necessary.. otherwise it may not make sense as to why there is a dilemma.
Okay so long story short, my sister has emotional issues and I think, psychological issues. Diagnosed with bi-polar. She can be very violent and vulgar, and threatening. I am the complete opposite of her and am pretty sure one of us was switched at birth. There was a time we got along really well, and I think it was because she was happy and taking medication. Now she has had an ongoing drug problem and I think this is the root of her extreme issues.
I didn’t ask her to be in the wedding because she is unreliable and irresponsible, and we obviously don’t get along too great. My parents have custody of my nieces and nephew and they’ve been traumatized by everything that’s happened. I am very upset with her for everything. Why should I ask her to be in my wedding?
Once my bridal party started to drop like flies I felt like I wanted to add one to it since I had lost two people. I decided to ask my old Jr. High/Eary HS friend who is now part of the family because she is marrying my step brother and they have two kids together. We had stopped hanging out in early HS because of her dating my brother and I wasn’t allowed to hang out with her when she was with him (which was nearly all the time) because he got into a lot of trouble and partied a lot. Goes without saying, we drifted apart. They lived in a different state when I began planning the wedding and recently moved back so I thought it would be nice for her to be in the wedding. Well, my sister got upset about it (which I can sorta understand) because she felt like I should have asked her. The old friend I asked told me she was flattered and really wanted to be in it. She told my sister that she thought it was F*ed up that I asked her and not my sister and didn’t want to be in it.
Recent situations arose with my sister- her threatening ways, vulgar language, etc. have arose. We didn’t talk for months then all of a sudden she came out of the woodwork still p’d off at me about the wedding party thing. It is to the point where I’ve deleted her from my FB (yeah, oooohhhhh! haha) and don’t want to talk to her.
The reason for the post: I am not sure if I even should invite her to the wedding. If I don’t then she I worry she will try to sabotage it and me, literally. If I do, I feel like she will try to sabotage it and me, literally. This is how immature she is. I am darned if I do and darned if I don’t.
This picture came to my head last night and it scares the crap out of me:
I saw me standing at the archway for the ceremony curled into my fiance’s arms because I was scared and she was in the back of the aisles of chairs screaming at me. Then I saw my fiance go up to her and scream at her because he is also sick of the BS she puts me through and it’s our wedding day so she shouldn’t be doing that… I am bawling and just standing there all scared and sad. It’s not a good picture.
Would you invite her? I mean either way, I think I am screwed.