(Closed) Sister drama: wish this wasn’t a problem

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I totally agree with you, you have been planning for how long? not ok. I think there needs to be a family meeting without the FIs and as a family you all need to be able to express your feelings and come up with something that will work.

Post # 4
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Has October been your wedding date for a long time?

Post # 6
5988 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i will not call you name because your feelings are valid but you chose to have a 2yr engagment and i dont think your sister should put her plans on hold considering you are getting married a month apart. 

im sure your wedding will be special, you have had much longer to plan so try to relax and enjoy both your and your sisters wedding

Post # 7
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry. It does kind of suck having two weddings close to each other in the same family. Fiance and I got engaged, and four days later FI’s older sister gets engaged. 🙁 It just kind of sucks. Our weddings are a little less than two months apart. I don’t have any advice, as I’m going through the same thing. 🙁 If it helps, I feel your pain! 

Post # 8
3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I understand that you are frustated.  I don’t think because your sister is getting married the month before that makes your wedding any less special.  I think your family will be very happy for both of you.  Just don’t dwell on it and have fun making plans for your wedding. 

Post # 9
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t be excited either…my sister and I got engaged days apart and our parents sat us down and asked us specifically not to do…that.

I’m sorry because I know it’s really hard to not look like a jerk feeling the way you do…but I get it.

Post # 10
8029 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know you only get one day, but this is annoying.

Post # 11
2574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can understand how this would be VERY annoying when all your plans were made first.


Post # 12
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m the sister that got engaged after and set our date 3 months before my sisters….

BUT, my sister has been engaged 2 years already, and by the time they get married it will be almost 4 years….

We chose our date because it works with my work schedule (I can only have certain times of the year off because I work in schools)….and we couldn’t get married in 6 months (we’re paying for our own wedding so we have to save) and we didn’t want a long engagement because I don’t see the point….a year and a half was perfect for us…..

I have had the backlash from my sister over it….but I’m not apologizing that I can only have certain times of the year off because of my work, I’ve had this job for almost 8 years so she KNOWS this and that I would have a summer wedding anyways….She just assumed that we would never get married….and last I had heard was that they were pushing it back a year which they are not now….

So, even though it’s annoying, people can’t schedule their lives around you….I would just ignore this, and go on with your planning….I would not let this drive a wedge between you and your sister….right now I have a feeling my sister isn’t talking to me since i never hear from her…..and she used to call me weekly…..*shrug* that’s her choice….I can’t do anything about it…..it’s her choice if she feels that way about when my wedding date is….

Post # 13
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I hate to admit it, but that would bother me too. I’m sorry it’s not turning out ideal for you, I hope you are able to come to terms with it and make the best out of it. You aren’t a bridezilla, I think anyone would be a bit dismayed to have a siblings wedding the montn before theres. 

Post # 15
1990 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think it’s extremely inconsiderate of your sister to do this, especially if she doesn’t have a particularly good reason for it.  I would be livid!  

Post # 16
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

WOW….  have your inviations gone out yet?  Can you move your date up? I am so sorry you are dealing with this.  I would be upset too.

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