(Closed) sister dropped the “bridezilla” bomb, I want to hear bridezilla stories!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hmmm, one bride I knew demanded that her shower be held at Tavern on the Green (super expensive NYC venue).  Her Maid/Matron of Honor told her she was nuts and held it at her apt.  The same bride also insisted on top of the line designer dresses, destination wedding, and all the works, without taking into account that all of her friends were still in grad school/working low-paying jobs in NYC (like her out of work FI).  The BM’s were none too pleased with her by the wedding.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So, your sister is a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but is upset she isn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor, or that one of the your two sisters isn’t the MOH? Ugh. I am feeling for you (though jealous a little, because I have no sisters and would love to have one in my life right now).

Sadly (? not really), most of the weddings I’ve been to have had lovely, gracious, wonderful brides. The only think close is a cousin of mine. His bride asked, I think, 8 girls to be BMs for their tiny, sweet wedding. Really, I don’t think she had any friends attend who weren’t BMs. She didn’t, however, ask her Future Sister-In-Law. Those two were really mad at eachother. I am of the opinion that you can ask whomever you want, but don’t go overboard in a way that feels exclusive.

By The Way, cousin just separated because she asked him to cut off all ties to his family.  Eek!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Fiance called me a bridezilla yesterday.  LOL.  He was joking (semi).  I think with me it stems from wanting things done now.  Our save the dates are going out soon, and I need about 160 addresses – of which we have 18.  He keeps saying “We will get them.” We have not.  Grrr….

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

yeah, my sister called me a bridezilla. Ok, the story is that I booked my reception at a place and I ended up cancelling because the I couldn’t afford to supply my guests  beer and wine bar at $30 extra per person.  (I ended up finding a caterer that allowed us to buy our own beer and liquor.)  Any way, I was hoping to get some of my deposit back. I know I wasn’t going to but I said to my sister that I was hoping because of the economy that this reception site might give us some money back.  Well it didn’t happen. (I was just talking to her about and doing a little wishful thinking.) Well my sister got all annoyed that we were taking advantage of the state of the economy.  She said people everywhere are stuggling. I understood that but she went on to say that people who can afford to buy things, should not expect to find a good deal. 

So basicly what she was saying that if I go out to buy a car, that if the sale price reads XXX amount, that I shouldn’t pay for that sale price, I should pay more for it because I’m not affected by the economy.  (Who is she to tell me that I’m not affected by the economy?  )

WTF?  Are you serious?  Yeah, so she said I was a bridezilla because I was trying to find the best deals and that I wasn’t happy that I couldn’t find better deals.

Yeah, she complained about some other things too.  Like I asked her to be one of my bridesmaids.  Well, she said she couldn’t afford it right now so she offered to be wedding help.  She said she could be doing things behind the scenes.  Well, I started asking her for some favors.  She did one or two things like picking up some items for me. (I was an out of state bride.)  Then she threw a trantrum about me pissing off craigslist people.  Ok, I saw some vases I wanted and I ended up changing my mind about them.  She threw a fit that I wasn’t considerate of people trying to make a living off of craigslist.  Yes, I understand where she is coming from but I was going to get vases that was going to cost me $5 total.  That’s it!  I can see if I was going to buy something big like over $100 but.. really $5? 

Anyway, from all of that, I stopped asking her for help.  I didn’t talk to her at all.  We finally apologized to each other like 2 days before the wedding.

hehe sorry.. this is long.

I’m done.

Edit: Yeah, I didn’t realize you were asking for bridezilla stories.  I wanted to post that my sister, too, called me a bridezilla when I don’t think I was.

Oh, to OP, I too have 2 sisters and I couldn’t chose between them at the time… so I went with a friend.  I don’t think my sisters were mad.  I know my older sister was understanding on why I didn’t choose one of them.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

One of my BMs was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a good friend of hers back in college (read: student income, and therefore poor). The bride referred to the period of her engagement as, “The Year of My Wedding” (I swear to God, I’m not making this up) and expected her BMs to behave accordingly. She had some sort of party at least every other month (engagement party, multiple bridal showers, bachelorette party) and expected her BMs (who were not all local) to attend every single one. She also insisted that her bachelorette party be extravagant, and I think her BMs were expected to throw at least two of her showers. The dresses she chose were at least $200, and I don’t even know how much the shoes were. Basically, she was absolutely heinous for an entire year. Oh, and her marriage – lasted 8 months. That’s right – the year of her wedding was longer than her marriage.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I heard a rumor my original caterer (who owns a restaurant) was having trouble paying his staff & there was talk about him closing down the restaurant. We were going to host the reception at his restaurant/lounge & I just got sooo upset. I marched over there to “talk it out” before I decided to change my venue/caterer. He was honest with me & said that even if the restaurant went out of business he’d still personally cater my wedding (we’ve worked together in the past). However, when I brought up the fact that I’d be out a venue he played dumb like that was never the plan & I just lost it!  I screamed & screamed… ripped up the contract & told him where to stuff the deposit.

It was an out of body experience. Seriously… not my proudest moment. I apologized, sent him some cupcakes & we’re cool now! He’s going to cater our rehearsal dinner 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Claxton Farm

It seems non-brides (and even former brides, which I really don’t get!) throw “Bridezilla” around way too loosely, knowing it will produce a rise, but often meaning it lightheartedly. Meanwhile, all of us brides live in fear of that word and do everything to avoid it…which probably contributes to the rare flashes of emotionally-charged or opinionated behavior. It is such an ooky term, imho. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wasn’t in this wedding, nor did I attend (although, we were invited), but the bride actually told her BMs to get ugly dresses so that she could look the prettiest. But yeah, she was totally serious, and the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were hideous. This wedding did not take place 20 years ago. It happened last summer. I was appaled when I heard that, and it was a definite “bridezilla” moment.

I’m actually not a fan of the word “bridezilla.” I was called that several times during our engagement, and people told me I was easiest bride to work with because I was more concerned about other people than myself. People use that word when I bride wants to stick up for herself, and it ain’t right.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@ Recessionista.. heheeheh “It was an out of body experience”..heeheheh bravo woman and nice on apologizing and the cupcakes!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@eloping: I’m not a bridezilla at heart… once I stopped shaking & calmed down I felt like a total cow! I couldn’t believe I’d acted that way!

lol and IMO cupcakes can make just about anything better. I’m going through a real rough patch with my Fiance and I’ve been noshing on cupcakes for days now. Seriously, I had 6 cupcakes today. And nothing else. Err besides milk & 3L of water. lol it really helped though 🙂

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with the posters here so far – it’s such an “ooky” word! It hurts! The people who haven’t been through the experience of planning a wedding don’t realize how many different expectations we (brides) have to live up to. Whether it’s the media making weddings out to be the biggest most lavish things that we should all spend our entire lives planning and paying for, or it’s our friends and our families who think it should be one way or another, or the vendors we work with trying to push us into something we may not necessarily want or need – we’re under a lot of pressure! Sometimes it’s easy to fall into an “out of body experience” and have a moment!!

So far I’d like to think I’ve been pretty calm, but it’s still early. I’m sure I’ll have a moment or two down the road, but so far I’ve spent more time worrying about how I’m treating everyone involved than I have planning! I’ve been prefacing everything with “I don’t want to come off as Bridezilla-ish, but…” And as long as the next part of that sentence isn’t “…I want you all to wear lavender iridescent taffeta gowns with butt bows and crimped hair”, I think I’ll be OK!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Im actually trying my best to avoid being called that, after watching the show ‘bridezilla’, I definately dont want to be remembered that way.  Im just taking it as smoothly as I can

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I went to a platinum wedding when I was younger and the bride yelled at her parents so much on “her” day that they LEFT the reception (mind you they dropped like 100K on this place–it was black tie and UBER formal and fancy) and flew home that day. The bride and groom are divorced now. But even as a kid i remember the drama and my parents reminded me of it a couple months before i got married. i can’t just imagine being so terribly ungracious and uncouth at my own wedding as to act that way towards my parents

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