Post # 32
no i havent talked to her since, they are away on holidays till monday, i hope my mother helps me out with this, bc she hasnt got back but she had plenty of time to tell me june 28th 2011 and then go MIA on me for texting… seriously im just blogged at this point i am expecting invitations in the mail today all is in print… i really could just walk away and go get married somewhere in private…
i just dont get any of this, or people for matter never mind that shes my sister we have shared the same birthday (she is older then me) go figure we where born on the same day i just want this one thing
there are some things in life you cant control the day you get married you can, i want things to be special for me, my sister my brother and any friend, how can you be happy for someone when they do this is there no ettiquette????
Post # 33
I’m so sorry! That was a b*tch move! The same thing happened to my husband and I. We were engaged for 2 years and his older sister was super against marriage and decided to get married 2 weeks before us…and disowned us b/c we didn’t want to make the 5 hour trip to witness a 5 minute ceremony then be sent right back when were were moving up to our apartment the same weekend. I think it’ll be easier for you to just let it go and enjoy your own planning.
Post # 34
I am usually really anti the “so and so is stealing my thunder” mentality, but this just sounds like an extremely stressful situation. There is so much to be done in the weeks leading up to the wedding. It’s not even about her attitude or who gets to be first; this just sounds really overwhelming! I really hope that she reconsiders her date. Good luck no matter when it is!
Post # 35
Your sister sucks. It is uncalled for- I don’t know what the “right” amount of time space is but I know 2 weeks is not sufficient. RUDE.
Post # 36
Well, there IS a brightside… sorta. If you’ve sent you the STD’s and/or the invites BEFORE her, it would be reasonable that the people would RSVP YOUR wedding first.
Which would mean they could be really rude and decline later, go to both, or decline hers and just wish her congratulations at YOUR wedding. (I’m hoping the guests RSVP yours and ignore HERS… 🙂 )
Sounds like she’s doing this just so she can be “first”. So, so sorry you’ve gotta deal with this!
Hope it works out and someone can talk (or knock) some sense into her! (Might I suggest a large club? 😉 )
Post # 37
I would be really upset at your sister!! Especially if you have out of town guests who’ll probably have to choose between the two. It’s hard financially on all your joint guests too!
Post # 38
Pretty shitty. I know someone else who is in a similar situation. He got engaged a year or so before his sister. Then she gets engaged and plans the wedding close to his wedding date. I’m sorry, but it’s uncalled for. Anyone who supports her decision is being unfair as well. I wish you the best of luck though. I can only imagine how hectic it’ll end up being.
Post # 39
I normally would say that it doesn’t matter if someone gets married before someone else, but come on! She’s your MOH?! And as a Maid/Matron of Honor she decided to have her own wedding two weeks before yours, and plan it within 3 months?! She sounds crazy.
Post # 40
Wow, I am just amazed she would even consider it, let alone do it. That would definately cramp my style, my parents would probably insist she cange her date if I had a sister who did that (and vice-versa). If she is planning in that short of time she is going to have to make a lot of sacrafices.
Post # 41
Well dang. I would agree with the other people here. While yes you only get one day, having your SISTER get married 2 weeks before would suck. Since youre related a large number of the family guests would overlap. I would try talking to your sister once she gets back and to your family about it. If it were a cousin or something, okay, but youre siblings. That is just not fair to the rest of your family, your poor parents!
Post # 42
I am in almost the exact same position as you, so I totally feel your pain. I got engaged back in Nov, Fiance and I have been together for 4 years. We set the date, booked the venue, shortly after, and I asked my sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. About a month ago she texts me saying she hopes I’m not mad, but she’s engaged and getting married two months before me with her boyfriend of about 6 months. They will only have been together for about a year when they get married this July. Oh and not to mention this is her 3rd engagement total, and 2nd since Fiance and I have been together. She should have done the right thing and let me have my moment, but she just couldn’t stand that I was getting married first. If the tables were turned she would not even be talking to me right now, thats just how she is. Plus I think she’s crazy for marrying this guy so soon considering her history with men. I just hope things work out for her and she doesn’t regret this.
Post # 43
I know JUST how you feel, My sister got engaged about 6 months after I did, and she decided that the date I had picked was the day she wanted to get married, well as one would guess I protested A LOT… but being the baby of the family everyone sided with her. she wound up picking a date 3 weeks before mine. I was SO mad. Then to top it all off my mom (I love her but she is THE cheapest woman alive) decided I needed to change my colors so that we could share more things at the wedding and even went as far as to suggest that I reuse the uneaten potion of my sisters cake… thus far I’m unimpressed with my family support. We ended up pushing our date back to avoid all the hassle.
Post # 44
You poor thing. I’m annoyed that 2 of my cousins decided to get married in the same summer as I am (one 2 weeks before, but we got engaged and set dates about the same time- it wasn’t intentional), although I don’t care that much because we aren’t super close and our personalities are way different so they wont bleed together, but this is your SISTER and she got engaged WAY after you set your date. Give us an update please!
Post # 45
I’m not engaged and neither is my sister…but this kind of crap, simply put, would not fly! It just screams disrespect..not to mention an unjustified sense of entitlement. You HAVE to confront her! I know how sisters can be sometimes, but this is just over the line!
PS… please update! 😛
Post # 46
That is total BS! I would be livid.
I really think there should at least be a full month between weddings. If you have out of towners, there is no way they’d come to both. And I’d figure your wedding would be the one with the short end of the stick because it’s second.
Honestly, I’m pissed for you and I don’t even know you! Tell her she’s being selfish. And a poo head. Hmph.
If this were my sister, I’d just communicate how incredibly selfish that would be. If she were to choose to ignore me, I would remove her from the wedding party. She is your sister, not some random friend.
She should care more about you.