(Closed) Sister gave me ultimatum to move wedding date :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

sorry but your sister is SO OUT OF LINE.

I don’t care how close she is with her, you are her blood. And that’s a low blow to you. She will feel regretful if she follows through with this.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@tampalove35:  totally agree..not only is she your best friend, she’s your sister..way outta line

Post # 6
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Worker bee

If you expect to continue having a close relationship with your sister…I would just avoid the blame game and let it slide off your back–give MoH duties to someone else and just go with the original plans. If she chooses to go to your wedding instead, then that’s on her but you should have a Plan B.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Um WHAT? She is your SISTER. You take the cake over her friend. End of story. And she should feel like a jerk, NOT you. Did you already move everything over?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

when I read the title of this thread, I thought “I don’t think so!” and I continue that feeling after reading your post.

I would be absolutely heartbroken if my sister did something like that. how far apart (geographically) are your wedding and the friend’s wedding? I don’t see why she can’t do both if they are on different days, even if she wouldn’t be able to make it to your rehearsal dinner.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Completely agree with the others. I don’t even know what I’d do if one of my sisters said they had to back out of my wedding to attend a friend’s wedding. You are 100% right in this situation.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would definitely not have changed my wedding date. This is her issue, not yours. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@FutureMrsRoos:  your sister is a bitch. sorry if that sounds harsh, but its true. the weddings are on different days… are they within a few hours of each other? can she travel from one to the other in the time alotted? And if not… f*** that noise, she’s your sister. SHE SHOULD CHOOSE YOU.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m chiming in with everyone else here. You should NOT have changed your date. Your sister should have dropped out of the OTHER wedding and not yours. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I sure as heck wouldn’t change my date for THIS REASON

I’d either pick another Maid/Matron of Honor… or I’d work around whatever timeframe is available with my Sister as the Maid/Matron of Honor (Wedding A on one day, and Wedding B the next… even in different cities is do-able IMO)

In all honesty… as your sister, and as you the Bride… she should be KEEN to help you out (work around things) vs you having to bend over for backwards for her needs

And the nerve of her… reaming you out.  What is up with that ???

To somehow EXPECT you to change the date / push back your Wedding to accomodate her is crazy.

She is literally asking you to push back your Wedding (and happiness) from November 2013… to a whole NINE months later to August 2014

That is BEYOND ridiculous…

And to think you are considering it / or worse yet doing it…

Well, frankly my dear, you are giving over too much power to this sister…

I’d be more concerned about WHY you think this is necessary to PLEASE her… what about you and your Beloved in this sceario.  I’m very curious as to what kind of issues you have with your sister, and your own self-esteem !!

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Really, do NOT switch, if you haven’t given up your bookings yet. There’s no way in hell you should feel like you have to do that just because she says she’s going to miss your wedding not to be an another wedding but to decoarate the night before another wedding. That’s a gigantic pile of nonsense. Can your parents intervene? Your sister must have just about lost her mind….

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@This Time Round:  completely agree. The fact that you’re bending over for her like this is almost weirder than her own messed up reaction. 

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