(Closed) Sister getting married same year/almost same dress: small vent

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Busy bee

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radem:  Yikes. The tops are some what different but not enough to tell the difference come her wedding. Luckily for you your wedding is before hers so it will look like she used yours for something borrowed 🙂

Post # 18
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Busy bee

You’re getting married first and theres enough of a gap no one is gonna notice the dress similarities. And trust me, you’ll look beautiful in your dress don’t be jealous of your sister.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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radem:  without trying to sound mean… When I read your title I thought ‘mermaid lace dress’… As you said it is popular style but I’m surprised how similar the two look.

I think some people will notice but (I’m going to generalise here) it’ll be the women who are closet to you both – mother, grandmother and aunts. The men won’t notice and the majority of your guests won’t notice. The few women who do notice will see the differences between your two weddings which will have an impact on how the dress looks, so they might not realise straight away. I wouldn’t worry too much, especially if your sister has a flair for the dramatic as this has the potential to blow into something way bigger than necessary. Vent away in the safety of the Internet.

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Post # 20
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Honey Beekeeper

Though the dresses are obviously very similar in style, they also have noticeable differences. The lace is actually very different. One has a scalloped transition where the bodice meets  the skirt while the other does a lace trim. One looks more form fitting overall.  As a guest, I’d  just think it’ s not surprising  that two sisters would have  similar taste. If you ask most people eight months later, they might remember that both of you wore mermaids. If that. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Those dresses are identical. As a guest I’d notice but as your first you’re okay. Gorgeous dress btw

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Wow. I would be super annoyed! My sister and I are not competetive but I would kill her if she pulled that, especially in the same year! The good thing is that you’re first. I do think people will notice the similarities and not recognize how different the lace is. They will probably think that she just wore yours as either a nice family sentiment or bc she’s cheap! 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

Yeah, there will be some people that notice, but no one should care. Give yourself some time to vent and then forget about it. You’ll both be beautiful brides.

FWIW, I realized after my wedding this year that the top of my wedding dress had a lot of similarities to what my sister wore when she eloped a few years ago. She eloped without family and I’d only seen one small picture, so I had no idea, but she thought it was funny and paired up photos of us looking like twins. Maybe in a few years, you and your sister can have a similar sister photo of you in your matching dresses!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Ladies, take a step back! No one is entitled to a wedding YEAR. These weddings are at least 7 months apart. Would you put your life and marriage on hold for your sister so the calendar could roll over? Such a meaningless time frame, and no one is going to care or remember that they both occurred in 2016. 

And I’m not trying to be mean, as another poster said, but this is a very popular and common dress style. It’s beautiful, and I’m sure you’ll both be gorgeous. But it is not unique. At all. And you don’t get dibs on a style over your sister when millions of other ladies are wearing the same thing.

Vent it out on the internet, let it go and feel better, but please don’t take it any farther than that. Your weddings will be different and special to you and your spouses, and your guests will be happy for both of you. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

You say the timing of her wedding didn’t bother you, but it obviously did if you included it in the title of your thread. Please.

And while the dresses are similar, that is an extremely common style. And most of your guests won’t remember what either of you looked like after the weddings are over. Get over it.

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Meh, people won’t notice except to think that that is a very popular silhouette these days. It’s not like the guests sit there judging the weddings and keeping score.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

Wow…some bees need to get some cause they are very easily offended they act like you insulted them personally…

Anyways it is obvious they look alike in the pictures next to eachother but I would think if its 6-7 months apart I most likely wouldn’t remember exact details so I think noone will notice (until you see pictures next to eachother and then you can laugh about how great minds think alike)

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

Well, at least you’re wearing it first. If anyone talks about it, they’ll be talking about her, not you.

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