Post # 17
Congrats on your engagement and welcome!
I’m really sorry to hear about your sister’s lack of excitement.
I had the same issue with my brother. He is 13 years older than me and looks at me like I’m still a baby, so I understood. My fiance was more upset over a lack of reaction than I was, but I knew my brother was going to have a hard time with it so I wasn’t too surprised. But you can’t help but being hurt by it.
Also, I know my brother is bitter about marriage because of this divorce (even though he remarried). Maybe your sister may still be affected by her divorce and may be bitter because of it. Some people have a hard time being happy for others because of jealousy.
My brother took 5 months to congratulate me but he finally did. Your engagement is still fresh. I think she’ll come around. Maybe she just needs time for it to set in, and I’m sure it won’t be 5 months.
In the meantime, we’re here for ya!
Post # 18
Congratulations on your engagement.
Sorry to hear about your sister attitude. It sounds like she’s pretty self involved and is probably focusing on her own relationship status.
My advice is try to spend time with your FI’s family and friends who are showing more excitement and support. Maybe you have a close girl friend who wouldn’t mind throwing a shower.
Post # 19
Congratulations on your engaging. I am so sorry that they are being so selfish. This you will learn will be a very emotionally charged time. You will realize who is really there for you. You will be surprised at the people who will step up and those who will step down and out. Please don’t let it spoil your excitement. We are here for you at the Bee to share your thoughts and ideas. Just ignore them and dont even bother to say anything to her about her attitude. if she wants to come around she will do it on her own in time. If she does not, don’t worry its still an exciting time and we will share your excitement..Happy planning….
Post # 20
I understand what you are going through. My family (not including parents) weren’t excited at all. When I went down to my Gmom’s for Easter with DH no one asked to see the ring or said congratulations. Seriously. I was in total shock and disbelief and actually had to lie to poor DH who was really excited asking if people looked at it! Eventually people came around, but there wasn’t any kind of initial excitement for us. I can’t chalk it up to the fact that no one is as excited for your wedding as you, because that was just plain rude in my opinion.
Post # 21
thanks everyone, I appreciate your replies. I have had such a knot in my stomach all week from this. My therapist (who I have been seeing for a while, due to other issues outside of my relationships), is in total agreement to just not contact my sister and let her contact me. Her daughter too, hasn’t said anything either 🙁 It’s just so hurtful. So I am just letting her be.
Thanks for your replies, appreciate your thoughts 🙂