- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2008
Around Memorial Day, my mom, I, Fi, Step dad, aunt & uncle, cousin, and two sister went camping for the holiday. We also got to spend time with my mom’s side of the family, who we only get to see once a year… around christmas.
During the camping event, my sister, J, had the worst attitude ever and was treating everyone like complete s*$%! Here is a little more background on my sister, J. She is 17, acts like she knows everything, has missed 50+ days of school, and isn’t considerate to anyone else, pretty much she is completely selfish. My other sister, E, was doing the same thing and cussing like a sailor. Ever other word out of her mouth is f#%*, etc. She is similar to J but she has less of an attitude and just doesn’t like to listen. E is 15.
Finally, my mom BLEW up at my sisters about how they treat, her like she was a rug and walk all over her. She laid into J about how many days of school she missed, and how she might not graduate. She also laid into her about her attitude and how she treat the family. Then she laid into E about how she cusses, her attitude, how she treats the family, and how neither of them don’t respect anyone else.
J, freaked out and started annoucing that she didn’t want to be apart of the family and didn’t want to see us again. She also said she never wanted to see us again.
Due to how she treats our mom and how she treats the whole family, I blew up at her and told her she was immature, needed to grow up, act her age and be more respectful. She carried on and informed me she didn’t want to be apart of the wedding (originally she was the maid of honor) and didn’t want to be a part of her neice’s life either. Yelled at my sister E to get into the car and took off.
Two weeks later she informed me that I couldn’t pay her to come to the wedding (due to the fact I sided with Fi about a matter instead of my own sister). She also mentioned that she couldn’t believe I expected her to come to the wedding. I tired not to lose my temper and informed her I haven’t expect anything out of her for sometime and its her choice to attend the wedding or not. She said a few other rude comments but I didn’t reply to them I just left it. I won’t elebroate on them either.
E aplogized around the same time. She said she wasn’t acting her age and that she should and needs to respect my mom.
My daughter’s birthday is this weekend and I was hoping she would come to at least see her niece. E informed me J wouldn’t be coming.
I don’t know what to do anymore. My sister informed me the other one wasn’t coming and I almost started balling. What would any of you do in this situation?
I don’t feel like I should apoligze, since everything I told her is true. Should I just wait until she decides she is acting immature or should I make an effort to try and get her to talk to me…. and risk her starting more fights and drawing it out longer. I’ve just about given up.