(Closed) Sister Help! sorry long

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yuck, what a tough situation! Unfortunately, I think the only think that’s going to snap her out of it is herself or something bad happening. It seems like she’s been bailed out of every situation so she hasn’t really suffered consequences yet.

In terms of having her in your wedding party, I would almost advise against it. And definitely not Maid/Matron of Honor. She can’t handle it. But, I do think it’s worth having a straight forward convesation with her about it. Like “You’re not in my wedding because of this, this and this.” Otherwise, she might try to make you out to be the bad guy.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ItsDestiny:  *HUG*

I too would advise not making her a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid. She does not sound reliable. As the wedding draws closer, you will not need the added stress she may bring.

As a PP said, just sit her down and tell her how you feel. You are entitled to it. Be prepared for family members to get angry and threaten not to come. Call their bluff and say “Well I’m sorry you can not attend” and move on.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I was guilted (by my mother) to have my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and it was a mistake!  DON’T DO IT.  My sister was the same way except that I am only a year and a half older than her but she is the most selfish person you would ever meet.  Five days before my wedding she decided she was going to “mend her broken relationship” with our Dad which resulted in a HUGE amount of drama that I did not need (she told him he was a horrible person and that she hated him).

In any event, she was NO HELP on my wedding day.  My sister-in-law however was AMAZING! If I could do it over, I totally would and have had her as my MOH!  Go with your gut!

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I definitely wouldn’t have her as your maid of honor. It doesnt seem like she will really be there for you! But, I do think you should still have her in the wedding!! If you do not want to tell her she isn’t the maid of honor, maybe you should just keep her, but promote one of your bridesmaids and make her moh too. That way you keep your sister happy, but you have someone else that you can rely on incase your sister falls through.

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