Post # 1
My brothers wife & I get along just fine, but we’re not close with eachother to say the least. I stood up in her wedding a few years ago, so is it proper etiquette that I have ask her to stand up in mine? I really just want to keep it to my 4 closest friends, and my Fiance will only be having 4 guys stand up as well (I’m weird about keeping it equal on both sides). My brother will be officiating our ceremony, so he will not be a groomsmen…I just don’t want her to feel snubbed.
(Side note: There won’t be any readings or anything like that…it’ll be a short & sweet ceremony.)
Post # 3
I wouldn’t ask her, its not expected, just ask the people you really want and you won’t regret going with your gut
Post # 4
If you don’t want her to stand up with you, then don’t have her. If you don’t want her to feel left out, find some other way for her to aid on your day, or beforehand.
Post # 5
I didn’t ask mine and she didn’t ask me but since yours asked you, it would be nice for you to return the favor. You don’t HAVE to though, it is totally your choice.
Post # 6
I really think you should ask her. What’s more important: matching Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen numbers, or the feelings of a family member? At the very least, have a corsage made for her to wear – something that honors her as part of your family.
I’m having one attendant, just my Maid/Matron of Honor, but we’re doing corsages and boutonnieres for all our siblings, since if we were having a larger, more traditional wedding, they’d definitely be in it.
Post # 7
I would say maybe do a small reading? a quote or a poem. I know you said you want it short and sweet but i think that having her be a part of your wedding (even if it is only an extra 45 seconds) is all the more worth it!
Post # 8
I don’t think you need to ask her. Especially since your brother isnt a groomsmen, if he was it may have been nice so that she didn’t feel left out. I don’t really think she would feel like you should have her since she had you, since the reason she had you was because you were the grooms sister. You should be fine esp. since you are just having your four closest friends. Good Luck!