Post # 1
So my fiances brother’s is getting married before myself and my fiance.
(there wedding is in October, and ours is in June next year)
Since before we even set the date, I have always said that my wedding theme would be a black and white theme with the bridesmaids in black dresses with some beading/diamante to match my dress.
Now my future sister in law has decided that her bridesmaids too will be wearing black with diamante detail, though her wedding has a purple butterfly theme from my understanding.
As her wedding is before mine, as you can imagine this has stressed me out slightly.
Whatever anybody says, I dont want our wedding to look in anyway similar or like im ‘copying’ hers.
Any tips to ensure that we can both have the same style dresses for our bridesmaids but for ours to look completely different!
dont know whether to just change the theme at this point! but the why should i!
Post # 3
maybe no one will notice. both my sister had black dresses for their bridesmaids. no one said anything. though it can be irksome when you know someone is stealing your wedding ideas. Never trust! that is what i have learned about sharing detail.
if you still love the idea for your bridemaids dresses go for it. plus hers is 1st so you can plan yours better. lol
Post # 4
I would be vague from now on – since you have so much more time then her, I would hold back in sharing. It’s just a little sketch. You can wait for her wedding to occur before making your decisions for the details of your wedding.
Post # 5
Unfortunately it sounds like you are learning the hard way, I did too. As excited as you are with your wedding don’t share details with anyone. I had to change my color and theme 3x since the first time my FI’s sister stole my ideas and the second time it was my brother. I would try to see what her dresses look like because you might have a lot of other options that will look different in still keeping with the black dresses.
Post # 6
I agree don’t share all the details but at the same time black is a VERY common color for bridesmaids dresses, I’ve been to 4 weddings this past year with that as the color.
Post # 7
Thanks for your responses.
Definately learning the hard way not to share our wedding details.
Id just have liked to have thought that she would have given my wedding plans the respect I give hers.
Im choosing to believe its unintentional at the moment, however if there are any other elements of my ideas in her day, I may not be so nice lol 🙂
I think i will still keep the black dresses but just choose them after their wedding. As the flowers and overall themes are different then it should be ok!
And no more details will be shared expect between me and my wedding planners (sis and mum lol!)
Post # 8
do whatever you want to do – it will still be yours no matter what.
and don’t sweat this chick copying you, she’s clearly imitating you because she wants to be you a little (or a lot).