(Closed) Sister-in-Law Issue/ Registry Question

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Should I add more to the registry or keep it as is?
    Add more items. : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Keep it as is. : (23 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We didn’t have a huge registry.  We spent what felt like an eternity picking out everything I could think of that we could want/have a place for.  It was a whopping 37 items.  I sat down with my laptop and fleshed it out a bit more, but both our registries combined were under 80 items (our guest list was about 125).  Register for what you want.  We did take registering as an opportunity to upgrade a few things that I already had – a nicer food processor, better towels, matching glasses, etc. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    How many items make up your registry?

    And, is there a variety of price point?

    I think the goal is to have some in the $10-50 range, the $100-ish range, so people have options.

    I’m all for NOT having a huge registry with all the typical things.  We were both established and did what it sounds like you are doing:  not registering for things we don’t need, and upgrading a lot of our current.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t worry about it. Keep your registry as is. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @MiJuneBee: yeah, I actually think you should try to add some things.  I’m still pro not registering for things you don’t want or will never use… so, if you go through it again and don’t find anything else, then leave it be.  People can gift you cash or come up with their own creative gifts… If you are having trouble adding for the particular store you registered at, consider adding one more.  We did BBB, Crate & Barrel and William Sonoma.  We had about 10 things on the C&B, 35 things on the BBB, and the rest on the WS (probably far too many fun things on that one).  If we had just stuck with one registry, there’s no way we could have had a lot of items.

    Post # 8
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    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    She is out of line.  Don’t register for things you don’t want.

    We registered at three different stores and at my shower, we still got lots of gift cards and checks, as well as something we didn’t register for.

    Post # 9
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Maybe she thought she was helping you? Just ignore her and other busybodies who think they should decide what you “need” to do. It is your wedding and your life.

    Post # 10
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    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @MiJuneBee:

    Wow! She it totally out of line! I had a family member say ‘there wasn’t anything good on the registry, could they give us a check?’ and I thought THAT was rude, but I think your sister-in-law wins that one.

    Post # 10
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    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @MiJuneBee:

    Wow! She is totally out of line! I had a family member say ‘there wasn’t anything good on the registry, could they give us a check?’ and I thought THAT was rude, but I think your sister-in-law wins that one.

    Post # 10
    Member
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @MiJuneBee:

    Wow! She is totally out of line! I had a family member say ‘there wasn’t anything good on the registry, could they give us a check?’ and I thought THAT was rude, but I think your sister-in-law wins that one.

    ETA: Dang, double post.

    Post # 12
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Yes, your SIL is out of line.

    My Mother-In-Law and SILs did this to me during our engagement. They kept telling me certain items I NEEDED to put on our registry. Yeah, didnt listen to them because we know what we need in our own home!

    Post # 13
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    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just ignore it.  I think many of us have the same battles.  We have a small apartment and I don’t like ‘stuff’.  So we only registered for things we needed that we didn’t have, very few upgrades (hello non ratty towels and a kitchenaid mixer that doesn’t leak grease) and some things we’ve wanted for quite some time. 

    My mother told me today we need more things (we have about 100 items for a 170 invited wedding that includes many children), that we should take some of the video and game items off because it was ‘funny on a bridal registry’. 

    It’s not a bridal registry.  It’s a bride & groom registry.  And we don’t need more silverware, we need a 2nd xbox controller, some camping chairs and some sheets.  🙂

    Good luck!

    Post # 14
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Register for what you want. You can always add more after the shower. Just make sure you have things in a variety of price points.

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