(Closed) Sister in Law lashing out about No Kids wish

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 63
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Bazingau:  I disagree.  I think Future Sister-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law are totally bullying her.  Its HER WEDDING, not theirs, yet they are insisting on campaigning and intimidation to get their way.  Totally innapropriate and OUT OF LINE as a guest.

Post # 64
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3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@WillyNilly:  Until the money is returned, they aren’t just guests. Money contiributions often times cost more than they are worth.

Post # 65
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275 posts
Helper bee

WOWZA! I would let your Fiance deal with them from here on out. It’s a shame but I don’t think your relationship with your in-laws will ever be the same from here on out.

Post # 66
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11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jandbwed:  well, if your ffil and fsil don’t end up coming as they are threatening, i greatly doubt their friends (the people you don’t know) will be attending.  yay, that will be 30 less guests to pay for.

i would give the money back and let them know that it’s your wedding.  if they still want their friends to attend, they will have to pay for them.  if not, tell them to uninvite their friends.

Post # 67
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ieatunicorns:  I said that as an assumption that she would be returning the $, as I inquired about in my first post.  I totally agree that the money must go back but EVEN THEN, my mother is giving me cash and pretty much has zero say.  If she pulled this I would cut up her check and thank her for the sentiment and do what I wanted.

Post # 69
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Oh wow, seriously two-faced/bipolar!

I agree that you should stand your ground, but it doesn’t sound like she’s going to listen, so I’d be prepared to deal with the situation should she bring the kids (perhaps suggest to the nanny to take them out for ice cream/to the park?!).

Post # 70
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3306 posts
Sugar bee

This is nuts. Did you tell them that your family won’t be bringing kids also? Fair is fair?

Post # 71
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3306 posts
Sugar bee

Or why not let them bring the kids and cut all of those 30 extra people.

Post # 72
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10285 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

OP, I think it’s awesome that you’re standing up for yourself and not giving in. A lot of people would just back down to save face but would end up resentful in the long run. You’re already this far so stick to your guns. Your IL’s can suck it. 

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