(Closed) Sister in Law troubles

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 17
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

There is absolutely no rule that dictates future in-laws need to be in the wedding party. Neither one of my two FSILs will be in the wedding party.

Post # 18
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Future Sister-In-Law will not be in my wedding party.
I would understand her not being able to attend all the events because she lives 6 hours away IF it wasn’t because she found out she wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid- now that is immature. Another reason to add to your list of why she shouldn’t be in your bridal party.

Post # 19
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Your SIL is being very immature. You are free not to have her in the wedding.

However, if your fiance is close to his sister and she is this offended, it might be good to put her in just to avoid any bad blood.


Post # 20
200 posts
Helper bee

This is how I am thinking of my bridal party – who will be there in 10+ years when you are looking at your wedding album and showing it to your children.

My step sister had 10 bm’s yes 10 and now she only sees/speaks to 3 of them… I do not want to look at my pics in the future and wonder how someone is doing or where they are… that being said I am having my sister, bf, and my 2 Future Sister-In-Law – one is his sister the other is his SIL who lives 6 hours away and I do not speak to other than at family functions.  This will keep the peace, I eventually will have a relationship with her and her son, daughter and husband are all a part of the wedding party. She may not be apart of or attend functions but I believe it is a great peace offering (she will be my child’s Aunt in the future after all).  Your Future Mother-In-Law and fam will appreciate the gesture and think higher of you for doing so.  It shows to them that you want to become a part of their family. Family sometimes means not doing what you want but what you should. 🙂

Post # 22
985 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

When my brother gets married, i dont care how close i am with his fiance’, i expect to be in the wedding. I think my brother would insist on that as well. Ive always known, no matter what, that my brother would be a groomsman in my wedding, and my future fiance’ would have to be ok with that.

But if you’re dead set against that, it is definitely in your best interest to repair whatever damage has been done. Theres a sacred connection between close siblings, and you dont want to be the one to come between that.

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