Post # 1
I have a big issue my future sister in law wants to wear a very reveling dress cream color see thru with the sides cut out and long train. I wish i had a picture of the dress to post it. How do I stop her from wearing it. I love her to death but it’s my wedding and I shouldn’t be out stage. Am I over reacting? Am I becoming a Bridezilla?
Post # 2
It’s inappropriate for her to want to wear out of curtesy for you but you can’t “stop” her from wearing it, also idk it’s a big enough issue to ruin the relationship specially since you are just becoming part of the family. No one is gonna out stage you, you are the bride. Everyone knows that. If anything people might look at her weird for wearing that.
Post # 3
No u r in the right. Talk to her or ask your Mother-In-Law to. This is not cool on her part all!
Post # 4
Tell her you think the cream colour and train is too bridal and you’d prefer she didn’t wear it.
If you don’t want to say anything and she wears it you won’t even notice on the day, she’ll have enough people side eyeing and judging her for it, don’t worry about it.
ETA: I agree you can address the cream colour and the train because they sound very bridal but you don’t get to tell an adult in 2016 their outfit it too ‘revealing’. it’s all a matter of taste and trends and it’s really none of your business how much cleavage she has.
Post # 5
White / cream / silver is usually not appropriate for anyone but the bride at weddings. She might not be aware of this – so you might gently remind her. You could say ‘oh, it’s a beautiful dress, but it’s tradition that only the bride wear that color. People might look down on you for that. Maybe save it for another occasion.’
Post # 6
first off can we see the dress?
second just get people to tell her its inappropriate… seriously if real life was like forums where people just told others how stupidly rude their being there would be far less ‘faux pas’ (although some people would still be attention seekers)
get family or friends to bring up that cream is inappropriate and the dress does not fit the wedding dress code, you probably cant be like ‘bitch dont you dare wear that’ but if she realises how silly she looks before the day it could save you both issues (I hate being stared at and talked about… most people do, so let her know thats a strong posability if you wear cream to a wedding)
Post # 7
I wouldn’t say anything unless I was asked. If she wears it, she will make herself look bad.
Post # 8
mishybear : since when is silver off limits?
ive often wear silver to events (including weddings) and never had an issue, many other people have worn silver too – its a pretty standard colour
Post # 9
btob17 : I wear silver, too. Didn’t know it was taboo. I’m not going to show up at a wedding in a white floor-length ballgown, but I’m not sure where the “Can’t look like the bride!!” insanity ends. As for the “revealing” SIL, no one is going to mistake her for the bride. If they notice at all, they’ll laugh at how goofy she looks. Don’t try to dictate what she’s going to wear – if she wants to make a fool of herself, so be it. Not your circus not your monkeys.
Post # 10
Her dress sounds hilarious and if she wears it, she will not upstage you but will be seen as a weirdo.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2018- Stan Hywet Gardens
She’s an adult. While it’s unfortunate that you don’t like her dress, you can’t dictate what she wears.
Post # 12
Unless you break into her house, steal the dress and set fire to it, you can’t “stop” her from wearing anything. She’s an adult, you’re not allowed to dictate what she wears.
Post # 13
You cannot tell adults how to dress. If that’s what makes her feel good for the wedding, let it go. If it’s outrageous, she’ll look silly; not you.
Post # 14
Honestly, I would be super pissed if my SIL bought a dress like that. It sounds bridal (despite the revealing part) and cream is inappropriate, she should really know that… I would simply address the issue with your Fiance and let him know you’re not exactly comfortable with her trying to upstage you. Maybe he can convince her to wear something a little more appropriate.
Post # 15
reynab10 : By Future Sister-In-Law, do you mean your FI’s sister?
Yes, talk to her. The very fact that she has told people what she’s wearing means that she’s looking for approval or disapproval. If she’s your FI’s sister, it might be better if he talks to her. Something along the line of “a cream dress with a train isn’t appropriate for a wedding guest”.
I agree with PPs not to mention how revealing it is. While I believe that wedding guests shouldn’t dress to draw attention to themselves, I don’t think there’s a good way to mention that part. So if she wears (say) a revealing blue dress, just let it go. All it will do is reflect badly on her, and it won’t look bridal.