Post # 1
I am getting married in August and my fiance’s sister is a bridesmaid in our wedding. The sister recently got engaged totally out of the blue to her on again off again boyfriend. It was a total surprise to everyone. Even more surprising she just announced she is getting married a month after me (which is only 3 months from now) and asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. I’m trying to be supportive and act excited, but at the same time I’m totally stressed that on top of still trying to pay for my wedding I now have to figure out how I’m going to pay to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. Again, trying to be supportive since she is participating in our wedding but 3 months notice to be a bridesmaid a month after my own wedding makes me feel nuts!
Post # 3
I would be upfront about this with her. Tell her the truth: your funds will be low, maybe too low, to contribute what is needed to be her bridesmaid. Maybe she has minimal expenses in mind? Since it’s so soon and after she’s put money into being your Bridesmaid or Best Man, maybe she’s going a more economical route.
Anyway, be honest. There’s no point in fretting if you don’t know the plan and if she doesn’t know your concern.
Post # 4
I know it seems overwhelming now, but this is a happy time for the two of you! I’m sure you’ll find a way to work it out and be able to be in each others’ weddings! I had 7 weddings the same year as ours. One was my BFF’s wedding 2 weeks before mine and the other was my old roommate’s wedding that was 3 weeks later. Enjoy planning together, and just give her a heads up that while you want to help as much as possible, it might be hard with your weddings so close to be as involved as she wants you to be…
Post # 5
I agree with PP. I would just talk to her. Chances are, she didn’t even think about the expenses and wanted to include you just as you have included her. Based on what I’ve seen on the Bee, I’m sure there would be ladies who would’ve been upset to not have been included even if it was 3 months after their wedding.
Post # 6
These are good thoughts. I am just a big time planner so having such short notice with an already jam packed summer/fall gives me anxiety and I just need to deal with it. I know she is doing a fall theme so perhaps I could even offer her some of my leftover wedding supplies if they fit her theme (card box, wishing tree, etc.).