Sister in laws behavior at bridal shower

posted 5 months ago in Family
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would have walked right up to them and asked them to stop being disrespectful.  In my opinion, it works better in the moment.  I had to do it once at my grandmother’s funeral.  Someone was there who was saying very disrespectful things, and I just walked up to her and said “This is a funeral to honor my grandmother.  If you can’t be respectful, I would ask that you leave.”  She left.  People who act like children get treated like children.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee

spaghettipolicy :  Your sisters in law remind me of these two:

My advice would be to treat them in a cordial but icy manner. As if they are beneath you, because due to their behavior, they really are.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Unrelated but what is the spaghetti policy???

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

Honestly they’re acting like little mean girl bitches. If you confront them directly about your feelings, they’re just going to snicker behind your back for being lame. 

 

They don’t care about your feelings – they think they’re too cool for your feelings – they care about being more important than everyone else. Girls like this respond best to being made to feel stupid and immature (which they are). Rather than causing more drama for them to gossip and laugh about, a casual eye roll and ignoring them will do. 

Post # 24
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Newbee

I’m old and I’m different. I say blow it off. If those two little girls want to act like little girls, let them. This is the problem nowadays. We seem to not be able to ignore bad behavior. You are the one who will have to put up with them for the rest of your life. You really want to start it off this way? Telling a boorish twit that you didn’t appreciate her bad behavior will only bring more bad behavior. It’s like with children, if I was always correcting mine for the little things they did, I’d be on them all the time. Save it for the big stuff. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

They want attention. Don’t give it to them.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh well, they shouldn’t really act like that though. Perhaps you could reach and talk with them about the things they did do upset you and that you hope it wouldn’t happen again in the future. I mean, they should have just go with the plan and understand that this small things meant everything to you.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

In agreement w/ @spaghetti policy on the icyness. Pathetic they really need to grow up. If it makes you feel any better my SIL was so jealous she had her back turned to us both at shower and wedding the entire time and distracted herself by giggling w one of my maids. It was hurtful and I wont forget it, losers anyway.

I wouldnt make a big deal since they’ll continue to up the ante but I’d separate myself from them as much as possible. We haven’t seen her since 🙂

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree except to add that this is definitely an indicator of more immaturity to come. We would never have done this to my brother’s (now deceased) wife. We took her out to dinner when she was in town and welcomed her into our family. My husband’s female relatives acted like this except more mean. 

carrieb :  

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