(Closed) Sister-In-Law’s Bridal Shower – Strange Request?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should my FSIL get typical shower gifts despite her request?
    Yes : (5 votes)
    14 %
    No : (5 votes)
    14 %
    Don't even give her a shower. : (25 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t throw a shower for someone who didn’t want a shower or gifts… but if your brother wants one, maybe you could do a Jack & Jill?

     

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I don’t think a bridal shower is the place for donations of that kind to be requested. Or donations of any kind, really.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would do a couples shower, so they can both get gifts they can actually use. If the groom seems interested in getting gifts, this will make it harder for her to say no.

    Post # 7
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    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I agree with the couple’s shower idea — obviously, it makes more sense to throw a party for your brother than his future wife.  And no way to the donation idea.  While it’s nice and all, it’s just not what a shower is for at all.

    Post # 8
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was forced into an engagement party by FI’s well-meaning family.  I was gracious about it, but really felt imposed on when they made it out to be some big favor toward me (when I didn’t want one in the first place). 

    That being said, just don’t throw her a shower.  She doesn’t know what they are.  She doesn’t want one.  Who is your aunt doing this for?

    Post # 9
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    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Do a couples shower instead. no offense but she sounds like a freakin piece of work. 

    Post # 10
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    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I like the couples shower idea too.  It might be easier for all involved since it is his side of the family and she seems stand-offish

    Post # 12
    Member
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t bother throwing a shower if the bride clearly doesn’t want one.

    ETA: Was it a veiled “no thanks”?  Yes.

    Post # 13
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    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Ahone:  her response is a not-very-veiled “no thanks”.  I’d skip it all together

    Post # 14
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    5183 posts
    Bee Keeper

    well she doesnt seem like she wants one that badly… so IF i were to throw one anyways, i would prob just put a little note on the invite that if possible, donate a couple dollars to the fund

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Ahone:  Her response was definitely a “no thanks.”  I believe I said the same thing to my Future Sister-In-Law….”I will have one if you guys want me to.”  (e.g. if it means that much to YOU to throw me a shower, then I’ll deal with it.)

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