Post # 1
I have 3 sisters, 4 cousins and several close friends so when choosing bridesmaids it was really difficult for me. I ended up just having 2, one of my sisters and one of my cousins. It was one of those things where I could either have like 2 or 20 bridesmaids so I chose 2.
Everyone has taken it well…except for my Fiance’s Brother’s wife (My future SIL)! She has been making all sorts of snide remarks about me not making her one of the Bridesmaids! I explained to her I was only going to have 2 and I hope she understood. Well, she said she did, but every chance she gets she is saying nasty things. Like one of our mutual friends just got married and posted pictures of the bridal party on FB and my future SIL commented saying “Oh, it was so nice for Michelle to include her future Sister in law!” then the other day she made her status “My wedding made EVERYONE feel included, didn’t it?” There is going to be about 2 hour gap between our ceremony and reception and everytime I see future SIL she always asks me “So..since I can’t go in the limo with my husband, what am I supposed to do in those 2 hours?”
I figured I would try to make her feel included by asking if she wanted to do a reading during the wedding ceremony. Her answer was “..Well, okay..only if I can ride in the limo.” I told her no, because I am not letting my sister and cousin who are both married bring their husbands in the limo. So she said “..Then I am going to pass..sorry.”
I think her issue is the fact she is a psycho jealous chick who watches her Husband 24/7 therefore is convinced he is somehow going to find someone to cheat with in the limo. All of this is just pissing me off and I just don’t know what to do anymore! Help!!
Post # 3
Yeah that is insane. My Future Sister-In-Law (FI’s sister) has been a pain trying to see if her possible fiance (they are just dating now) will be added as a groomsman if they get engaged and it really makes me angry for a variety of reasons I wrote in a post recently. You tried to satisfy her here, you did the right thing, she should back off. If she brings it up again, say that if it will make her feel better, you would be alright with your BIL skipping the limo, then any fall out of that is on the two of them.
Post # 4
@bearlove: I am sorry you are going through a similar thing!! It is so frustrating! You are right, I think I might tell her that her Husband should skip the limo if she is so upset then.
Post # 5
I know how you feel my fsil will not attend any event that I host including nieces parties baptisms etc because she wouldnt be the focus of attention if she did, sounds like your fsil is the same she needs to be bridesmaid or in the nice car so she can share your day. just remember its YOUR day x
Post # 6
That’s so rude! SHe sounds like a child
Post # 7
@Firefliesflash: What is she to do in those two hours between the ceremony and reception? May I suggest that she catch up on reading the latest book called “How To Get Over Yourself — What to Do When You Feel Entitled and Have a Stick Up Your Wazoo.” (I have no idea if that is an actual title, but wouldn’t it be great if it was?) Geez, she is an adult (physically, at least) so perhaps she can figure out some means of transportation concerning the wedding with other family members/friends. Don’t let her make her survival on your wedding day something you have to resolve. Not your problem! Hang in there!
Post # 8
She has no right to be upset that she’s not in th wedding party, especially when 2 of your sisters aren’t even in the party! But what’s the harm in letting her ride along in the limo. I mean, how would you feel if you went to a wedding where you weren’t allowed to ride along with your fiance/husband for 2 hours? No offense but I wouldn’t be happy about it either.
Post # 9
Tell her to go kick rocks with open-toed shoes. Your own sister isn’t even in the wedding…tell her to build a bridge and get over it.
I don’t understand why people think they can tell you what should take place at your wedding.
Post # 10
She’s being idiotic and rude. Ignore her. You have already explained your reasoning. If she wants to harp on this for the next six months, let her.
Post # 11
This is why I am so glad Mr. LR is an only child and my brother isn’t allowed to date until I have picked out his wife 😉
On a serious note, I am so sorry you are going through this! Like weddings aren’t stressful enough!! I agree with PP, if she keeps throwing a fit and being immature, tell her that her SO does not have to ride in the limo and they can go together. She’s being ridiculous. I am sure there is only enough room for the wedding party in the limo, and you can’t include one non-wedding party person without including everyone else. Why can’t weddings be easy?! Just kill her with kindness and look forward to your day!! Find some silver lining too, I know a girl who’s mother, against her wishes, wore a CREAM dress to her wedding. Like, seriously MOB?! At least you don’t have to deal with a woman like THAT!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Is she in 8th grade? Does your brother know what she’s saying to you? Just curious…he can’t side with you, but he might be able to get her to tone down the nasty remarks.
I think it’s time to hid her status from your feed.
Post # 13
I’m just going to tag on to what the other posters say…this is YOUR wedding, hang in there! It’s not at all your job to figure out what she should do with the two hours.
Post # 14
It has to be something in the air, illness perhaps, that is affecting fsils! Forget her! Dont let her bs ruin your day! Its your friggin limo so what you say goes!!
Post # 15
It’s your choice not hers to be in the wedding party! I think it is even above and beyond of you to have her do a reading. Howeve,r I don’t see the harm in the limo ride unless you just don’t have enough room. I am having a limo/bus and all of the bridal party and their dates will be joining, in fact that’s how it’s always been around here because of the Catholic Weddings and their gaps before the reception.
Post # 16
@LisaC: You won’t be happy but I bet you won’t be a bear about it would you? Anyhow, to the OP, just ignore her. This is the begining of someone who is going to be a thorn in your flesh. Be careful from now on because she is showing you how she is going to be behaving from now on. DO.NOT.GIVE.IN.TO.HER.WISHES!! I am sure she can find something to do with herself for 2 hours. Your other sisters are not in the limo. Neither are your cousins or any of the other people. She should hang out with them. The nerve! I don’t understand folks sometimes. And remove her from your feed since it seems to bother you.