(Closed) Sister is so childish

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Well, you can’t control what your mom does, or what your sister does — you can only control what you do.  

You and your Fiance are trying to start a family — so alleviate any unnessary stress — and if it’s your sister, mom, father whomever – you need to just lessen up on the sharing and worrying about what they do or don’t do.  

THat’s in your control — so it’s up to you!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Anonymous16:  I agree with 
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Breauxlin:  . You can only control your own actions. If moving is the best thing for your family unit, then do it. You already asked your mom to stop telling you about your sister. 

I’m not telling you to do this as I don’t know you or your family well enough, but I personally would have an upfront conversation with my mother (if she had a personality similar to your own) that I am going to move away to remove myself from any family drama/negativity. I would also tell my mother that I had requested multiple times for her to stop telling me about my sister. And since she cannot do that, I have to take the next step for my family’s sake. The reason I’m not necessarily recommending that you do this is b/c sometimes the truth might make the situation worse since it’ll hurt your mother’s feelings. However, I’m a firm believer that sometimes you need to do so in order for someone else to realize how their behavior affects others. 

I’m sorry, but your mom is a MOTHER, so she needs to take the reigns and stop letting your sister bully her. It’s easier said than done, but if your mom can’t do that and is always crying, it’s probably best that you move away. You can’t help people who don’t want to be helped. And when I say “want to be helped,” I mean, they want it enough to do something about it.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

You absolutely CAN tell your mother to turn her phone off or ignore it when she’s with you…

 Sister is 36 years old! She can survive for a few hours without mommy and mom KNOWS as well as you do exactly why her daughter is calling and it always results in her crying. Youve more or less cut your sister out of your life so explain to mom that you really want to maintain a good relationship with her but that sister cannot, in any way, be a part of it For the health of your family. If your mom wants to maintain that relationship she can and should but if she can’t stop putting her stress on you after you’ve made it clear how you feel she’s 100% choosing your sister over you so you shouldn’t feel bad telling her you can’t maintain a relationship with her until she can refrain from bringing up your sister… I hate when parents choose to coddle their asshold adult children and expect their other kids to be happy with it or support them. 

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