Sister is trying to get all the attention on my wedding day

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
6 posts

Omg what. People will not be distracted from you on your wedding because your sister has a new tattoo. They’ll probably say “hey that’s cool” or not even notice. You HAVE to chill, everything’s fine and this is NOT a reason to cut your sister out of the wedding (WHAT?). 

Also, if she wanted to upstage you, there are far better things she could do. Most of what other people do is NOT ABOUT YOU and I guarantee this tattoo had nothing to do with your wedding day and if it did then jokes on her because it will 100% not work. 

Post # 3
480 posts
Helper bee

Your sister might be trying to upstage you and she might not be but you need to remember to stay calm. No matter what she does, your wedding is about you and your future husband and your guests know that.

Also, depending on how quickly she heals and how big the tattoo is, she’s in for a rude awakening come the day of the wedding. Her back will most likely be hot, tight and itchy -like a sunburn- and she will be uncomfortable as all get out.  (It will probably be peeling too.)

This more than likely wasn’t the best time to get a brand new tattoo.

Don’t freak, forget about her and enjoy your day!

Post # 4
2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I really don’t think your sister put a permanent marking on her body to upstage you on your wedding day, that’s sort of insane.

If that is the case, remember no one’s going to ignore the woman in the big white dress, the actual bride, in favour of looking at your sister’s new tattoo.

Take comfort in the fact that she’s not showing up in your same wedding dress 😉 

Post # 5
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Wow. You are definitely overreacting here. What a ridiculous idea that a person would get a tattoo to upstage someone’s wedding day. I can’t believe you are actually considering cutting her out of your wedding over this. Wow. 

Post # 6
7603 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

A new back tattoo will not upstage a bride. 

Post # 7
1299 posts
Bumble bee

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that most people’s reaction to a giant, back-covering tattoo is not going to be “Oh, look at that beautiful tattoo!” but my crowd might be much different than yours.

Post # 8
1120 posts
Bumble bee

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beebee1983 :  hahaha those were my thoughts exactly!

Post # 9
9079 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Uh… I think you want to be mad at her?

No one is going to care about her tattoo. You’re overthinking this.

Post # 10
604 posts
Busy bee

There is literally nothing that anyone can do to upstage the bride. Take a deep breath.

Post # 11
13548 posts
Honey Beekeeper

LOL, this is a first. I’ve heard of brides upset because they dislike tattoos and wish someone would have waited to avoid a negative reaction, but never someone worried she will be upstaged by one! FYI both attitudes are equally inappropriate.

OP, it’s your sister’s body, and whatever your feelings are on the subject of tattoos, you do not get to dictate. Even if she is doing this to allegedly “look good” at your wedding, so what? If you cut her out that is only a bad reflection on your character, not hers.

That said, I’m out on that limb with 

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beebee1983 :  

Post # 12
1012 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t know if your sister is trying to upstage you or not. You know your sister and we don’t. Maybe she’s crazy and petty; maybe you’re looking to be mad at her.  But I do know that she will not accomplish upstaging you. Someone getting a tattoo does not live in the same realm as someone getting married. 

Post # 13
8221 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

She must really hate you to spend hundreds of dollars and permanently mark her body just to take attention away from you! Props to her for commitment!

Post # 14
1265 posts
Bumble bee

OP, you’re about 17, right? 

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