Post # 1
I have two older sisters, the oldest lives within an hour of me, we do alot of stuff together, I talk to her almost everyday, So she is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. My other sister live in a different state, we dont talk much, actually we didnt talk for YEARS and jsut recently i contacted her to ask if she would like to come to the wedding. Now is it mean that she isnt going to be a part of the bridal party, when my other sister is the MOH?? Should i encorporate her into some part of the wedding or just let her be a guest??
Post # 3
If you guys aren’t close I don’t see a reason to include her in the party. You could always make her an honored guest or something and mention her in the program as that. But given that she lives in a different state and you do not talk I wouldn’t give her a big job in the bridal party just in case something happens and she cannot come.
Post # 4
@Corilee13: Yea i think that is what i am leaning towards… I might get her a coursage just for her, so she feels at least somewhat invloved…. If she even comes… thanks
Post # 5
@HeatherShane: Ironically, I also have two sisters. They are both MOHs in my wedding as I am very close to each. However, my younger sister is getting married just before I am. I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor and our oldest sister isn’t included in the wedding party.
Obviously the older sister would have felt honored to be in the wedding, but I don’t think she was surprised or put off by the fact that she isn’t in the wedding given that they don’t speak often.
Do what is going to make you happy!!
Post # 6
@HeatherShane: Thats what my aunt did with my mom. My mom was not in the wedding party but was mentioned as an honored guest and given a small corsage. Hoenstly I don’t think your sister will be too offended. My mom can’t even remember which sister had her in the wedding and which didn’t 😛
Post # 7
My best friend was not in the bridal party of her youngest sister. There is four sisters and the youngest sister choose the one she was closest too to be in the wedding. I know my friend was sad that she was not in it. She said she didn’t care but she did. But she and her sisters are not as estranged as you are. I would say its okay if she is not in it but there is a chance that she will be sad about it, even if she never expresses it.
Post # 8
I have 2 sisters and a brother, 1 sister will be coming and so will my brother. the other sister is not welcome so is not invited.
a little back story, i was married once before and she decided to get into bed with my husband….. so ok you can have that husband, but you are not welcome to THIS wedding. PS……thank you, because if you hadnt done that, i would never have met the love of my life.
Post # 9
I have a similar situation…I have two older sisters (twins), and I’m really close to one, and not that close to the other. I’ve been debating whether to have one in my wedding (as my MOH), and not having the other. I’m afraid that her feelings would get hurt though, if I did. I love the idea of a corsage as a special guest…that’s a really good idea I hadn’t thought of yet.
Post # 10
@Corilee13:I love the honored guest idea.