- 8 years ago
Phew, ok, let’s see if I can figure out a way to say all this.
Okay, a description of my sister: she is a year younger than me. She and I live together for the next 4 months. She is immature, spoiled and a bit socially inept, so she mooches off of myself and Fiance a lot in that she just quit seeing her friends because it was easier to go out with us and our friends whenever she felt like it, invited or not. She has had this spoiled, entitled attitude her whole life, always being jealous of me (though I never really knew it–my mom mentioned this in passing the other day) and thinking of herself as the favorite child. Another note–Since we’re in school and have a great metro system here, we share a car, by which I mean she feels entitled to it 90% of the time. Overall, I usually ignore her selfishness and do what I can to keep it harmonious in our apartment.
Now, the problem is, I thought she was ok with the wedding. I mean, i’ve been engaged for nearly 8 months now… but she is VERY jealous. She has been hurling insults in the past few weeks, but none about the wedding until today. She decided she would drive us to a couple of places, and she knew they were wedding related errands. While we were out, she said something very coldly and just plain hurtful to me about the wedding date while we were in a store, and I really wanted to cry–instead I just kind of wanted to purchase what I was getting and leave. Fiance was with us, but of course sister was driving. She proceeded to hang around the store an extra 30 minutes because she knew it was getting at me as we waited outside for her in the cold, rainy weather, and then came out smiling because she knew it got to us.
Usually I take everything sister does with a grain of salt. I mean, she’s got really bad anxiety problems and honestly should probably be evaluated by a professional, but we just usually ignore it. This took it to a new level, compounded by the fact that my mom not only is very irritated with the way she’s been acting, but told me on the phone that my sister told her that “she doesn’t want to share her birthday month with the wedding.”
In my whole life, I’ve never wanted anything more than just one day for me–my wedding. Now i’m worried that she’s going to try to ruin it by “melting down” and lashing out at all of us. I can’t talk to her about it because she is in denial that she acts like this. I talked to my mom and she is going to try to talk to her, but my sister will brush that off, too. So hive… what do you think I should do?