(Closed) Sister/ MOH question

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Two MOHs?
    Yes, Its your wedding : (18 votes)
    78 %
    Yes, But only in some circumstances : (1 votes)
    4 %
    No, Just let your sister since friend is understanding : (3 votes)
    13 %
    No, Dont let your sister make you do anything : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ve heard of people having 2 MOH’s and think it’s completely ok (as long as you have more than one other bridesmaid).

    Also, the Maid/Matron of Honor really doesn’t have to be the most responsible. My sister is Maid/Matron of Honor by default, but the one Bridesmaid or Best Man who lives int he same city as me has taken the reins as far as organizing a bachelorhette weekend and being really “wedding supportive”.


    Post # 4
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    I don’t think it’s a problem if YOU want it or don’t care. Maybe to your dad and sis, she will be the “first” Maid/Matron of Honor, but you and your friend Maid/Matron of Honor would know that it was only a title. If you are ok with that I think it’s fine.

    Post # 5
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    I think it’s definitely ok to have 2 MOHs, especially if having your sister be one isn’t that big of a deal for you. From your post, it seems like it’s important to you to have your friend be your Maid/Matron of Honor. Since she understands your relationship with your sister, maybe let your friend know she’s the “real” Maid/Matron of Honor (as long as she won’t go telling everybody and it gets back to your sister).

    Now, if you don’t want to give your sister all the glory without any of the work (being Maid/Matron of Honor is a lot of work, especially emotionally), then don’t do it. Would your dad really stop paying for the wedding if you didn’t ask her? If you think it would be an issue, calmly explain your reasons to your sister and your dad, and make your sis a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    Post # 6
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I had a Matron of Honor (my sister) and a Maid of Honor (my very close friend). So if that’s what YOU want….go with it!

    Also, my big sister wasn’t able to help in a lot of things because she lives in another state.

    Post # 7
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    Oh, and like KatNYC2011 said, your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t necessarily have to do all the work. My little sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s a full time student with little extra time or money. My other BMs took more active roles in planning/paying for my bachelorette party and shower.

    Post # 8
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Totally ok. And an elegant solution to protecting your sis’s feelings while still having your BFF as your partner in crime. 🙂

    Post # 9
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am thinking of doing this too. My little sis is my Maid/Matron of Honor out of family obligation too. I mean, I love her to death but she is only 18 and has zero idea of what to do as a Maid/Matron of Honor. Plus, she lives about 4 hours aways so it is difficult for her to help me with stuff. One of my BMs who is my best friend has really taken over on assisting me with the planning and she planned my bridal shower and everything. I never officially asked her to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, but I think on the day of the wedding, I am going to give her a special gift (aside from the other Bridesmaid or Best Man ones) and write a little note thanking her for being my “other” Maid/Matron of Honor.

    Post # 10
    4682 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    It’s perfectly fine to have two MOHs.

    Post # 11
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

     I am having 2 Matrons of Honor(my sisters) and one Maid of Honor(my teenage daughter).  We all know that my two sisters will split the duties, but it was important for me to give them all an equal title since they are all important in my life.

    As for weeonebride your friend will take over the duties of planning events, etc but can now split the cost of throwing all the parties.  Believe me I just finished the 5th party for my sister(pre-engagement celebration, engagement, bridal, bachelorette, baby) and parties are not cheap so I am sure your friend will welcome the help!


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