(Closed) Sister not the Matron of Honor

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hi. I do not think that anyone has the right to tell you who you Maid/Matron of Honor should be. It should be the person you are most comfortable with. I will choose my mom when the time comes.

Post # 4
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1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

my moh is my best friend because i dislike my sister and everything she has done to me. my mother was little upset but she forgot about it. my sister is not even part of the bridal party

Post # 5
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wont let it bother you. I am not having my sister in my wedding party mainly because she has never really supported my relationship. Even when we drove through a major snow storm to announce our engagement to my family, she never said congrats. Plus she tried to hook me up with some guy the next day.

Post # 6
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I asked my sister but then after a couple months she decided it was too inconvenient for her and now she doesnt even want to go to my wedding.  I have decided to shut her out of my life for good, im glad she isnt in my wedding because you want people who support you and your Fiance standing beside you not just because they are blood

Post # 7
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1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I am very close to one of my cousins and she is also like a sister to me (and was definitely my bridesmaid), but it would have killed my sister if she wasn’t my Maid/Matron of Honor and I could have never done that to her.

Post # 8
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance isn’t having his brother in our wedding party at all either.  They aren’t close and he chose to have his friends who have always been there for him stand up with him.  The brother and the parents were a little stung, but they got over it.

It’s your wedding, your choice. 

Post # 9
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1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont have a sister but if i did then i wouldnt feel like i had to have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 10
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My best friend will be my Matron of Honor. My sister will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. There were no hard feelings for anyone. The choice is yours and yours alone. Try your best not to sacrifice what you want for your wedding just to accomodate someone else’s wishes.

Post # 11
Hostess
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I too, have my best friend as my maid of honor and my sister as a bridesmaid.  My sister is 8 years younger than me and a sophomore in college, and didn’t feel like she could do as good a job as my best friend could.  The 3 of us get “crap” a lot about my sister not being my bridesmaid (or in the least, why i can’t have 2 MOHs), but we’re doing a pretty decent job of explaining the situation.  All in all, this is really your decision and what will make you feel less stress on your wedding day!  good luck!

Post # 12
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@pengoala:I’m kinda in the same boat.  My sister is 8 years younger than I am and I know she really doesn’t want to be the Maid/Matron of Honor.  However my mom thinks she has to be and went ahead and asked her to be it anyway.  She told me she’d think about it, but really she is a freshman in college and by the time the wedding rolls around she will be around 20.  Way too young for all the responsibilities.  I’m waiting until she decides, but in all reality my best friend will be my Maid/Matron of Honor and I know my sister is ok with it.  

Post # 13
Hostess
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Miss Yoga Pants:  Wow, that’s exactly the same story!  I’m so glad I’m not alone! 🙂  Yeah, trust all of your instincts and go for the gold.  My sister will be the same age too!

Post # 14
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have two sisters, one wasnt even in the wedding and the other was NOT my Maid/Matron of Honor, best decisions ever. you have to do what is right for you…and sometimes the right choice isnt always the easiest.

Post # 15
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

As some of the PP have said, my sister is 8 years younger than me and will be a freshman in highschool when Fiance and I get married. There was never any doubt that she would be a bridesmaid but definitely not my Maid/Matron of Honor 🙂

Post # 16
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My sister was my maid of honor, but she has turned into a bridesmaidzilla (if that even is such a thing), so she has been asked to step down. I think its terrible when a sister can’t just be there for you 🙁

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